Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board
Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: teartracks on February 28, 2008, 08:31:56 AM
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Hi everyone,
Just wanted y'all to know that we're in for a couple of tests. I'll be off for a day or so. Be back soon.
t
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Dear (((( TT ))))
I will keep your Mom in my prayers
and yourself also, for strength to sustain you.
Love, Leah
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TT,
Will be holding you and your mom in my thoughts -
cats paw
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I am thinking and praying for you and Mom, TT. Thank you for ALL you give to others. Love Ami
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Dear (((((((((tt)))))))))
Bless you, Violet
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::sending you calm positive thoughts:: ((tt))
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Keeping an eye out for updates ((((((((((tt))))))))))).... and praying.
Don't forget to put up your feet and say, ahh...
Love,
Carolyn
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Thinking and Praying for you TT Love Ami
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((((((( TT )))))))
Thoughts of you today, and your Mom
in my prayers.
Love, Leah
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Best to you and your mom. Please don't forget to take care of yourself
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Hi gang,
You lift me up. It turned out that of all the stuff that went on yesterday and today was that my little pooch got bad diahhrea. I think part of it was that I had to be separted from him longer than he could endure. Before, mom was here when I wasn't. Now when I leave, I think anxiety really overwhelms him. He's just like his mommy(me) who has GAD (generalized anxiety disorder) I think my mom is going to come through all of what is going on. She is still refusing coumadin for the blood clot that showed up behind her knee. The other tests came out fine. The doctor gave her something to spike her appetite. She's eating a lot and enjoying it. I'm very grateful for that. There for a while it looked like she would starve to death in spite of herself.
I'll keep you posted. Special love to Leah, Cats Paw, Ami, violet, beth, lighter, carolyn and ann3.
tt
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Ohhh I hope poor pooch didn';t make too much mess or suffer too badly.
Made me happy to picture your mum happily tucking into her food.
(((tt))) So much on your shoulders.
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Dear tt,
Is your pup feeling better now? Wondering whether they make a pet-med for that... to prevent dehydration.
From one thing to another it is, for sure, but you sound relieved... and that's wonderful! Is your mom's rehab place far from your home? I hope you're able to spend some more time now in more peaceful relaxation, at home with your furry friend.
Love and hugs to you,
Carolyn
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Hi Carolyn & lighter,
Well when I got home, everything (tile floor) was a mess. Poor thing had gone everywhere. He seems to feel OK. So far, I've given him a Tum, cheese and milk. It's just my best effort to get it under control. If not we'll be off to the vet. My gut tells me it was caused by anxiety. He is going on 14.
Thanks for giving me good pep talks.
tt
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Dear tt,
So sorry you had to find such a mess when you got back home, but very glad the little guy is feeling better.
Not sure about milk with dogs, but I know it's one thing that does give cats diahhrea... so may be worth researching.
And about his separation anxiety... I know a lady who used to call her old answering machine (left with volume turned up) and talk to her pet via the message she recorded. Of course, he wasn't able to talk back that way... :D
More hugs,
Carolyn
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Thinking of you TT. Cheese sounds good for the dog,maybe whole wheat bread. I am glad that your Mom is better. The one I am concerned with is "You". How are you doing,TT,now that everyone (except maybe puppy seems better)?
I bet it is separation anxiety ,with your dog. My Poodle used to bark at the bottom of the stairs when I was taking a bath,when she was too old to climb the stairs. She sounded so mournful and I was only upstairs,not on a trip ,as you were.
Love and hugs to you TT, Ami
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Hi TT, I am new and just fumbling around here on the board, but I wanted to add my best wishes for your mother's recovery.
Also, I hope your pup gets better. My 6 year old dog gets diarrhea when he gets really stressed. I have found adding some canned pumpkin to his food to be helpful. He loves it. Veterinary studies have found orange veggies to prevent bladder cancer in dogs as well so it isn't a bad idea to add to the food a few times a week anyway.
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Sorry about all the stress TT. I am glad to hear things look up for your mother. They sure make em tough these days. My animals react the same way. I believe a bland diet of rice and gravy is best for an animal with an upset tummy, and if possible don't change their diet, although how that is possible if they don't eat rice everyday, I don't know. Dairy products are too fatty and keep the upset stomach emptying.
Kim in Oz (((tt)))
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When the girls have that kind of tummy trouble I give them tea, rice, bananas and Ummmmm...... it's the brat diet, lol.
What does the A stand for? Couldn't be apples..... I guess I skip the A and stick with the other things, lol.
Hope his tummy is better now anyways.
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Hi everyone,
Spent three hours with Mom tonight. I was overcome with sadness on leaving her. She has her good mind and she has her confused mind. It's like the two hang out together, holding hands, for in the same five minutes she will tell me a story out of her confusion, mixed with something out of reality. She isn't like this all the time though. All things considered, she is doing well.
Thanks to everyone for the ideas for my little doggie. He seems all well now. FreeThinker, I put carrots in his food tonight. He loved it. Thanks. I'll take all hints where dog food is concerned.
8)(((((((((((((((((((((((Leah, lighter, Kimberli, Iz, Ami, Carolyn, Ann3, FreeThinker))))))))))))))))))))))))))) 8)
tt
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Sorry you were sad after the visit tonight..... but glad doggie is feeling better.
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Hi Leah,
I'm glad you are enjoying Devine Conspiracy. Willard is deep, and hammers his points home in a convincing and intelligent way. Of all the Christian writers I've read, he reminds me of Paul the most. I didn't read Devine Conspiracy, but have read Renovation of the Heart. I keep it handy for reference.
tt
tt
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I have heard him speak but I have not read him. Does he grab you?
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Dear TT,
It does sound really sad, as you interact with your M. It reminds me of the many sadnesses in life. Boy,TT, this world really hurts s/times, doesn't it? I have you and your mother in my prayers and thoughts, TT. Love Ami
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little poem for ((((((((((((((((TT, TT's Mum, TT's furry old child)))))))))))))))))
old lady waning
dog spews sadness
daughter loves
honors balance
lets go
holds again
walks the boundaries
it's ohhh clock and
all is well
love
Hops
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Dearest Hops,
The poem. I know it comes from a heart that understands. Thank you for it. I will cherish it.
How is your Mother? Are you taking some evenings for yourself? You must!
tt
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Hi OC,
Re: Dallas Willard
I wouldn't say that Willard's books grab me like say a novel. Willards writing is not a quick read for me at all. At first, I wanted to criticize him, I think because he took me by surprise with the depth of what he writes and I had to pay attention more than with other writers. He really wants to get points across and it seems like he has endless ways to get you there.
How was he as a speaker?
tt
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Thanks (((((TT)))))
Mom's going slowly downhill, but I predict nothing.
She has a mild respiratory infection now, and is being given antibiotics.
Hard to admit but the truth is I think it'd be more merciful to let the infection go.
She's miserable, and the paralysis is no better. A pneumonia might be a mercy.
I'm going to talk to her doctor about it, see what he thinks.
Seems like an ethical question and I want the right/good answer.
Thoughts welcome from anyone.
What would YOU want if you were 97 and lost the use of your arm and leg
and faced 24/7 bedridden care? Would you want to fight off an infection or let it run?
thank you,
Hops
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Hi Hops,
What a tough question. A hard thing to face regardless of which route you take. I personally (for my own self) would say let me go.
My mom and I had a short discussion about this several years ago. I asked her, Mama, if you died would you want to be brought back to life? Without hesitation, she said, NO! Then right away she said, but if it happens, I may change my mind. She said that with humor.
I went to the rehab facility this afternoon to check on her. She's having a rough day. I fear that she is heading back into one of her Failure To Thrive episodes. I'm going back later this evening to see how she is doing.
tt
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Thank you, Izz.
It's my choice legally, as I am her Health Care Power of Attorney.
I think I want to think it through carefully.
I have a dog in this hunt (as I have fears of losing the house), so I have to be careful that I am truly deciding in an ethical fashion.
We have medical ethicists at the local hospital and I may call on one at some point.
But I also trust my ministers and close friends.
I have my covenant group tonight and will definitely mention the issue there, and invite comment.
TT, I hope your mother's resolution to her life is a merciful as nature allows.
love
Hops
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Same thing. An old guy who talked rather dryly but when you realized what he was saying you went WOW!
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Hi dear hearts,
A little update. Mom apparently has leveled out somewhat. Still drifting in and out of confusion. She looks terrific, but is wheelchair or bed bound. Atrophy of everything. PT not coming along so well because of the blood clot. I just don't know what to expect next. Me and one neice are her only regular family visitors, however, she does get community visitors a couple of times a week. She has a darling roomie and they kind of look after each other. My brother has to attend two trade shows far from his home base the balance of March. Hopefully after that he can join back in as a visitor.
The extreme exhaustion I felt has lifted. I'm not back completely, but at least there is hope. I need exercise desperately to recover my next level of strength. I was just to exhausted for a while to put forth the effort. Not so now. I tell myself that I'm waiting for Spring when I can do gardening. I so look forward to having days in the sunshine. I think I'm hoping the hot sun will remove some of the emotional toxins. Ha!
It's time for me to get back to my painting. That means I will have much less time to browse and post here. I'm not going away, more like a semi-break where I'll read when I can and post occasionally.
I love y'all. The board is doing so well. Mother tt doesn't feel nearly so compelled to hover over it and issue sassy posts when she feels it is threatened. :lol:
Best regards to each one.
tt
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Dear TT,
I am glad you are not as exhausted. Emotional exhaustion is very hard. I had it after Scott's death.I am glad that you are looking forward to things : spring, warm weather, gardening,painting, simple joys of life.
For me, exercise really helps emotions. At least there is "one"positive addiction(lol)
I wish the best outcome for your mother. I can tell you are uncertain of the future for her. This must be very hard,in itself.
The board is the best I have ever seen it. In fact,I would call it "mature"(lol) Maybe,it grew up ,along with all of us---huh?
TT, you have been through so much pain. I hope it is abating ,for you.
We are in the unique group of losing children.
The Bereaved Parents Group gives me a peace. We are not alone, and the human comfort of those who have been there is priceless. I am learning the lesson that I really need people and it is not "weak" or a flaw,but human.
Love and a Big Hug to you,TT, Ami
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Nice to hear from you and know you are hanging in there, as is your mom. I think you and Hops do a tremendous job caretaking for your moms.
Lots of love, Beth
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Dear tt,
Just picturing you in your gardening hat and gloves... makes me smile. Enjoy, please... and know that I'll be thinking of you.
Thanks for the update; I'm going to follow suit... and will be continuing to pray for you and your brother and mom, too... but I'll miss your sassy spells.
Love and big hugs,
Carolyn
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Thinking of you, TT. Sending good wishes and peace to you, friend. Love Ami