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Title: Is this narcissitic behavior?
Post by: Elaine1966 on February 29, 2008, 11:22:53 PM
Well group,
My NEx fiance went to counseling today and advised he would do whatever it took to keep me.  He will continue with his therapy.  I was proud of him until now.

He had the password to my business email and was constantly reading it accusing me of sleeping with my clients, so I changed the password as that is confidential.  And there is NOTHING going on with my clients or colleagues.  I got accused because I told one of my clients, "chow" at the end of my letter to him.  To one of my colleagues, who is a very dear friend of mine and old enough to be my father, xoxoxoxo at the end of my letter to him.....so now I must be sleeping with them LOL!

Anyways, changed the password and now he is furious and said he is done with me.....can you believe that?  I am the one who is trying to leave him.  So now, because I won't give him the new password, I am guilty and he is done with me.

I just don't get it!    :?

I think it's going to be a rough weekend!

Elaine
Title: Re: Is this narcissitic behavior?
Post by: dandylife on March 01, 2008, 12:24:31 AM
Remember the story of the 6's? N's behave like 6-year olds.

Call his bluff.

Say, "OK. Guess I'm not good enough for you. Bye."

Just see how fast he will back-pedal. 3 seconds?

Dandylife
Title: Re: Is this narcissitic behavior?
Post by: Ami on March 01, 2008, 08:35:42 AM
Oh Elaine,
  I think you got your answer. IF you go forward,it will be by ignoring glaring red flags. Someday, you will rue the day you didn;t listen to yourself and others(the board)IMO.
  I had thousands of red flags before I married my H. EVEN my N M told me to run,but I was too immature.
  I paid and paid and paid.
 Compost what seems right to you. Hope I was not too harsh.                         Ami
Title: Re: Is this narcissitic behavior?
Post by: Overcomer on March 01, 2008, 08:44:59 AM
Yes my H is like this too.  The best thing is to call his bluff-at first he will say GOOD and then when you stay firm he will come running back!