Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board
Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: Overcomer on March 01, 2008, 08:48:35 AM
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Start the week off as it is brunch time for Ds wedding reception which is today! Backed into my other Ds car, and now my H was laid off. My ex did not help with the wedding Or reception and is two months late on child support. It is a bad time. Of course I has been drunk since he got ibid off!
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Ok let me edit that. It is crunch time. My husband is the one who has been drunk since he got laid off.
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Oh ,Kelly, I am glad you edited that(lol). Sorry for ALL the problems at the same time. What a bite!!!.
I wish you peace and balance as you try to naigate your way through,my friend. Sending prayers your way. Love Ami
(((((((((((Kelly)))))))))))))))
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Oh, Kelly, wow. I have been feeling so sorry for myself
for being sick in bed all week, then reading this and hearing
about Lupita's week and Izzy's and tt's and all that Ami is
dealing with and just everyone! Seems like life is really
sucking so much for so many right now.
Brighter days are coming, hang on!
((((((((((kelly and all))))))))))))
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Drats rats and double drats.
It seems when it rains it pours..... and you're the one in the middle standing strong and holding it all together.
((((Overcomer))))
Hard to find another job while toasted.... I hope he gets it out of his system and finds another job, pronto.
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yeah he is reeling and the economy is so bad. I hope there is another job out there! Meanwhile I was thinking about my mom who is loaded and she will not offer help but will wait until we are in a state of desperation and have to beg so she can play the hero.
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::sending thougts of strength to buck up your husband and et him back on that employment horse::
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(((((((( Kelly )))))))))
Hoping, praying, that good will birth out of this hard trial.
Maybe, just the thing to break out of his pattern.
Warm sincere thoughts, for strength and courage.
Love, Leah
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(((((((((((Overcomer)))))))))))))))
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Just thinking about you ,Kelly!!!! Love Ami
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Dear Kelly,
I'm sorry that times are so tough... yet I know that wondrous changes can grow out of this, so just praying for God's very best for you and your family. Keep the faith, girl.
Love,
Carolyn
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BEg away OC but learn to do it with detachment. The easiest analogy that comes to mind (but I'm sure there is a better tasting one) is of a desparate mother prostituting to feed her young. Just detach and get what you need. The way I think about it is that I am asking for only what I would do for my son and what my grandparents more than did for my mother. Ask but don't swallow the guilties or the ought to's or the endebtedness. Just beg, grovel and thank.
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Good advice. The reception was great! A good end to a bad week. Then the people came out of the woodwork to tell my H about jobs.
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(((((((((((((OC)))))))))))))) - continued blessing!
tt
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((((((((((( Kelly ))))))))))
".... all things to the good" Truly, so very glad to know that the reception was a joyous occasion, with such a blessing at the end!
Leah x
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So glad the reception was great!!! So glad for you AND your precious D.
And glad those termites are leaving the woodwork.
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Yea! Get rid of those nasty termites.
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Your post was a breath of fresh air.
A joy filled celebration for your d and job opportunities for your husband: )
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I am so glad to hear good news, Kelly. You need wonderful pockets of happiness, Kelly!! Love Ami
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Everything is ok-except it is supposed to snow AGAIN! We have been hit over and over and over again. My H will start the job hunt tomorrow. We divided up the food and there was lots! I think I gained a few pounds over the weekend-they loosened my band due to a slip! A month to eat whatever I want! NO!
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Don't do it K. Don't let that slip be a slip - LOL. You will definitely pay. It ain't worth it. You just have to starve more later. OK I know - you didn't ask for that advice.
Let me try again. Way to go OC. take good care of yourself and yours. Love, GS
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Overcomer...... try to keep healthier things in the house.
don't deny yourself.... eat every 3 hours and enjoy it but.... make sure it's a big yummy salad with strawberries and nuts and goats cheese then have one with a little steak and balsamic vinegrette with blue cheese.... then have a chopped salad then one with chicken and honey mustard dressing.
I love baby spinach and mmmmmm..... spinach salad with warm wilted onion red wine bacon dressing and tons of spinach.
You can make sure you're eating and not hungry while revving up your metabolism with small frequent meals.... plenty of water.
Then.... whne you absolutely MUST have ice cream or chips..... you don't have to beat yourself up bc you're eating healthy most of the time.
It's about habits and I know it's hard. ((Overcomer))
I esp love starting the day out with a protein shake so it curbs my appetite and gives me energy during the day, when I'm trying to get my habits back on track.
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When I used to have to watch my weight(unlike now when I want to gain ), I found a book on the emotional reasons for eating.
When we overeat, we are medicating emotions. The book helped me to see that it was not food I wanted ,but something else. It was hard to figure out what exactly and I never really did, but just the fact that I was eating food when I really wanted some "emotional " food, did help break some of the compulsiveness I had, at the time.
It is really, really heard to break food addictions b/c they are not as "destructive" as some other addictions which force you to a bottom , like drugs and alcohol.
My heart goes out to you, Kelly. You have a lot on your plate. Love Ami
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Lighter-your descriptions of salads are yummy! 0Thanks all-I have eaten too much since the loosen but I plan on nipping it in the bud!
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Overcomer,
So sorry for the week from hell. I hope things continue to look up and that your husband has good luck in the job hunt.
By the way, those salads did sound good. I had one today with little bits of sweet dried cranberries, goat cheese and nuts with a balsamic vinegrette. :)
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I advise vegetarian bacon bits, but that's because I have particular feelings about swine. (I love pigs.)
I know quite a few folks who, when they need to eat healthfully, still believe they owe their kids or families junk food in the house. So there they are struggling to remember their lives are at stake, and they're surrounded with "food" that comes in boxes and shiny bags. Junk cereals, sugary this, corn syrup that. It's nuts.
If I lived with a person who was life-threateningly allergic to perfumes, even though I adored perfume and could put it on three times a day with pleasure, I would not use perfume. Period. Or only when I traveled.
Kids don't need anything that's processed and pre-prepared. The book Square Foot Gardening (there's also a web site) is amazing, and a good start to change what's in the cupboards. Especially when the kids get into it.
love and support to you, Kel,
Hops
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Yes, thank you everyone. We do have too much junk food and it is especially bad for my autistic daughter. I will try to choose better things. I am a food a holic and I just need to start LOVING the good stuff. I know my daughter loves salmon so more of that!!!