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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: Lupita on March 01, 2008, 02:37:04 PM

Title: pattern
Post by: Lupita on March 01, 2008, 02:37:04 PM

everytime I come to the board I get a high and suddenly somebody makes me land again.
But then I go away and come back and the same, I know it is my fault. I know it is me that I allow others to define me. I know I am depending in others aproval, as much as I say I dont care, I still feel bad. As much as I work in not to need anybody's aproval. Not successful; yet.

Title: Re: pattern
Post by: lighter on March 01, 2008, 02:52:16 PM

Ahhhh Lupita.

Just relax back, embrace those feelings you're now condemning and care for them like children.

They keep coming up bc they need to be heard and attended to.

Tend to them.

Parent them.

""Ahhhh there you are again.... I recognize you, feelings of being not good enough and defeated bc you require validation from someone else... but I'm here for you and I accept you.... I;ll always love you no matter what."

Be kind to yourself Lupita.

Nurture yourself and your feelings then turn your mind to what you do want for yourself.

Practice good habits and be mindful when the negative habits show themselves again.  Be patient with them, as your FOO was never patient with you.

Title: Re: pattern
Post by: Leah on March 01, 2008, 03:00:39 PM

(((((( Lupita )))))))

I can't see what has happened, only saddened to see you sad.

I really valued and appreciated your postings today, as did other members, as I can see.

What has happened to create the feeling that you now have, if you care to share.

Thoughts of you.

Love, Leah

Title: Re: pattern
Post by: nogadge on March 01, 2008, 03:03:46 PM

 :DLupita :D
 :lol:Lupita :lol:
Let your natural endorphans these very actions make you smile when words don't do it. 
nogadge

Title: Re: pattern
Post by: Lupita on March 01, 2008, 03:09:52 PM

Dear Lighter, you are totally right. I will try.
Dear Lea, I allowed my locus of control to become external instead of internal. I allowed a sentence to change my mood, I allowed the past to come back instead of leting there in the back, in the past. I did exactly the opposite of what I am preaching n my thread of detachment. It is easy to say it and difficult to do it. Like the doctors, do what I say no what I do. LOL. Thanks for asking.
Thanks Nog.

(((((((((((((Lea))))))))))))))))

((((((((((((((((Lighter)))))))))))))))))))

(((((((((((((((Nogadge)))))))))))))

I am trying to get in a good mood now and off to the gym.

Please, dear friends, read the thread on detachmetn, very good, important for everyone.

Love to you all.