Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board
Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: gratitude28 on March 14, 2008, 02:29:43 PM
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I would love to wear something purely because I think it is beautiful - not because I feel it covers some body part well...
I would like to watch birds come to my bird feeder all day long and actually figure out what kind they are...
I would like for Henry to stop licking his feet and infecting them and then limping around the house like his leg is broken when I put medicine on his foot and wrap it up (can a dog be a drama queen????)...
I would love to have my son come downstairs one school morning without asking him 49 times to do so... Even better if he actually comes down dressed...
I would like to enjoy eating apples as much as I enjoy eating cheese and crackers...
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I would love to have peace in my own soul.
I would love to be centered,in my own body,grounded.
I would love to be able to travel and go places and know that I had a home ,in myself, and can feel safe.
I would love to have a male/female relationship where we both have ourselves, and then each other.
I want to nurture s/one and have s/one nurture me.
I want to feel safe ,in myself, when I am with other people.
I want my own power to be in me.
I want to stay centered,once I find it(or most of the time)
I want to give up the fear of death.
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I'm sometimes convinced all my cats suffer from NPD, so I'm sure a dog can be a drama queen.
I saw a movie a while back that really touched me. There was a girl in an art class who had been through a bunch of bad times and they were supposed to paint an apple. She sniffed the apple for a good minute before she took a bite out of it. I always wanted to enjoy an apple like that. Her partner was very mad she ate their project.
I hope you find ways to do those things.
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I want to give up the painfully hopeless wish that the people who have wronged me, my parents, would ever repent or recognize the damage done.
Instead, I want the spirit of forgiveness for those who have victimized me to overwhelm my heart, mind and soul.
I want humility.
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(((((AMi))))))))))
Darren, thanks for the laugh!!! Cats ALL have NPD, really :)
Lise (((((((((((((((())))))))))))))
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I want to know what I knew as a kid--- you can just control and manage yourself. It is selfish to ask other people to give you a "self", It is wise to give yourself "a self". Love is the way to respond,in human relationships . You can have bad thoughts . It is human and OK. They will pass. If you do act unkindly, at times, that is human ,too.You don't have to be the best, that is silly. Character and values give you a core and safety,but you don't always follow them ,perfectly. That is why there is an eraser on the pencil (lol) Ami
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I want to have a conversation with my H thu is not one sided and repetitive. I want to fall in love with someone who does not have an addiction-especially alcohol. I want to be a stay at home mom. I want to love to exercise. I want my mom to like me just because I am her daughter-not for what I do or how i reflect on her. I want to win the $280 Million lottery. I would buy my store and make the bookkeeper the manager.
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I would like to be free of people who have no consideration for anyone but themselves... those for whom the entire universe has but one purpose - and everyone else is expendable.
I'd like the self-obsessed, what's in it for me's to be shipped off to some desert island where they can bore each other to tears, leaving the rest of us imperfect beings to give and take and share, in genuine love and caring, as life was meant to be.
Carolyn
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Here Here!
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ditto... (((Carolyn)))!!!!!!!
Let the island be called "The Toxic Wasteland."
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Carolyn,
Did you ever see the commerical called, My talking stain. OMG it is so funny. You have to watch it. It reminds me of when the N's use to go off on their gibberish and double talking you can't concentrate your focused on how nuts it sounds. I don't know if I know how to do a link. I will try. I'm not good at it. If you google my talking stain it will bring you there.
How perfect a name to associate with my N's I knew (my talking stains).
Check it out if you get a chance.
Funny, funny,
Love Deb
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I'm sorry I don't know how to link. It's on you tube though. Have fun!
Love
Deb
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LOL... Yes, Deb! My daughter pointed this one out to me, after her class had to review SuperBowl commercials and critique them. Here's the UTube version... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vgtfC5LBAW4&feature=related (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vgtfC5LBAW4&feature=related)
... and you're right... that's pretty much what I'd hear from npd-ex, especially when he was telling someone about his expertise on the job. After the words "30 years experience".... the rest was exactly like the talking stain :lol: Thanks, Deb!
Carolyn
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Carolyn,
Thanks for posting the link and your welcome.
Love
Deb
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(((((((Deb)))))) ... in case it might help... you see the address line up at the top of your screen? Like in the window you're in right now, it's
http://www.voicelessness.com/disc3//index.php?action=post;topic=7424.0;num_replies=14 (http://www.voicelessness.com/disc3//index.php?action=post;topic=7424.0;num_replies=14)
Well, if you right click on that line up at the top left of your screen, you'll see some options in a box - to cut, copy, paste, delete, etc.
Click copy... and then left click the mouse wherever you'd like to paste the link. Holding down the Ctrl button and the letter v simultaneously will paste it. If you want it to appear as a clickable link, there's a button up above the smiley faces to do that (says "insert link").
Hope that helps.
Love,
Carolyn
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I would like to stop reacting internally to things that do not deserve a reaction. No more responses of racing heart, hurt, anger, worry, depression. Let it roll off my back, like water off a duck's back. Laugh it off.
I would like to be consistent in my ability to handle my own life without ever feeling nervous around the person who has shown me what N rage looks like.
I would like my happiness to be strong enough to withstand whatever threatens it.
Ultimately, I am HAPPY to have experienced all of this. I feel that it has helped me to learn lessons that were not part of my prior learning expereince. Without all of this, I would never have been told by a T that 50% of the population has issues that are serious enough to warrant a diagnosis. It makes me feel better to know that I am not the most unlucky woman alive. The odds of marrying someone with serious issues are rather high.
In a round-about way, this has gotten me to a much better place in my own mind. I am happy, and nothing that anybody can do or say can take that away. Yet at times I still experience anxiety in connection with events that could lead to disagreement with H.
I am happy. Now, I want to feel calm, regardless of what is said or done around me.
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(((((((((((((Confounded)))))))))))) Love, Ami
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Deb,
I LOVE the talking stain commercial. And you are sooooooooo right. I am sure that is EXACTLY what I sound like to NM. How funny! Kind of like talking to the dog....
Blah blah blah blah, Henry blah blah blah blah something Henry likes blah blah blah blah Henry :)
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Dear Bee,
My Aunt lived in a hotel , for awhile.
My house is a reflection of me, more for the bad,than good(lol).
It looks good ,on the outside, but drawers and closets are stuffed with thing, just as my mind has been stuffed with distortions. As our mind clears, our environment will clear. I feel quite certain of it. Love Ami
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Dear Ami,
I'm going to sort some stuff now. I hope it works the other way around too: that if your space clears up, so does your head...
Hugs
Bee
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I would like ---
to feel worthy
to get away (physically) from people who make me feel unworthy or less than
to have a comfortable physical life
to create a safety zone around myself so that I don't always feel on high alert status
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Dear Bee
I think it DOES work the other way around. IF your space clears up, your head does ,too,but, I haven't tried it(LOL) Love Ami
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I would like to have a regular bottle of water at my desk instead of the nasty bottle of grape flavored crap that I accidentally bought from the machine because it looked like regular water.
I would like for Henry not to get ear infections anymore, or toe infections. Somehow I always feel they are my fault...
I would like to magically be moved to our new house without all of the work involved. I would also like for the new house to decorate itself.