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Title: N mom taking over
Post by: Overcomer on April 12, 2008, 11:58:13 PM

You know my d just got married.  Well I warned the mom of my d husband that my mom would take over.  Well the mom heard me and she is mad because the kids did us dog Easter AND his birthday.  Four months and already problems with the in laws.

Title: Re: N mom taking over
Post by: Gaining Strength on April 13, 2008, 01:04:14 AM

Well the mom heard me and she is mad because the kids did us dog Easter AND his birthday.

Kelly - what did you mean by this?  What kind of trouble?

Title: Re: N mom taking over
Post by: Ami on April 13, 2008, 08:27:30 AM

Dear Kelly,
 I usually get your "typos", but this is too "out there"(lol).                 Ami

Title: Re: N mom taking over
Post by: Overcomer on April 13, 2008, 08:51:28 AM

What I meant to say is that the kids planned to do us first for Easter dinner and then go over to the other family.  Well a couple of the other family got sick so the other mom cancelled.  Then a week later was her son's birthday and they went out to eat with us.  She feels like she is losing her son.  But the reason he chose us is because his sister had to work so they had their birthday dinner AFTER the fact.  I am not mad at the mom-I warned her that my mom would take over.

Title: Re: N mom taking over
Post by: Ami on April 13, 2008, 09:08:58 AM

I see, Kelly. I guess the new MIL needs to get brought up to snuff on the "real" family issues. It is hard to bring together two familes, especially when there is an N involved(lol)
 I have a feeling the new MIL will adapt, though. What do you think?      Love   Ami

Title: Re: N mom taking over
Post by: Overcomer on April 13, 2008, 10:22:57 AM

Well I set her up I think.  I told her my mom had a way to infiltrate your life without you even realizing it.  So she say the series of events through those eyes.  My d said this is one time that my mom was not at fault but she got blamed because of her history.  I believe my mom is reaping what she has sown all these years.  She thought she was in control all these years but she has so many people seeking revenge or disrespecting her.  All she wants is the spotlight.

Title: Re: N mom taking over
Post by: Gaining Strength on April 13, 2008, 10:53:33 PM

She feels like she is losing her son.
I am sorry for your son-in-law and your daughter.  The MIL is far too possessive.  That is a very bad sign.  These are young people, just married, who need to be able to start their life without family guilting them for celebrating special events in particular ways.  It is this very pressure that can set the tone for a lifetime of struggle. That makes me sad for both of them.

Title: Re: N mom taking over
Post by: Overcomer on April 14, 2008, 12:42:31 AM

Yes pressure from all sides.

Title: Re: N mom taking over
Post by: Ami on April 14, 2008, 08:05:30 AM

Maybe you can talk to the MIL, Kelly. She has to be more reasonable than YOUR M. What do you think?        Ami

Title: Re: N mom taking over
Post by: Overcomer on April 14, 2008, 10:19:43 AM

I have been calling her and texting her.  I even called he daughter who works for me to ask her what is wrong with her mom.  My d asked me not to talk to her about it because then she would know we talked.  The MIL And I are friends but she tends to be a bit melancholy.  Hopefully my d convinced her that it all were series of unfortunate events.