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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: seasons on May 18, 2008, 10:18:06 AM

Title: mother and son
Post by: seasons on May 18, 2008, 10:18:06 AM

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Title: Re: mother and son
Post by: Ami on May 18, 2008, 10:24:13 AM

Dear Seasons,
 You are really courageous to face  that pain and horror.
 Today,I was thinking that the human being was NOT made to carry  this  pain.
 It is so much, sometimes.
 You sound stronger, Seasons. I am WITH you as you face the truth.
 I can see your strength increase as you face this. It is so, so painful, though. I hear that in your voice,, dear friend.I am so sorry you have to bear this.My heart goes out to you.     Love    Ami

(((((((Seasons)))))))))

Title: Re: mother and son
Post by: Gaining Strength on May 18, 2008, 11:04:31 AM

It turns my stomach just reading it too Seasons.  It also sends the fear of God through me because as a single mother raising an only child, boy child I sometimes here myself referring to "our" relationship when listening to others talk about their husbands.  I will really keep this in mind. 

I have often heard myself say in conversations "we" when I know it sounds like a couple rather than mother and child.  I realize that what I am doing is different from what your sister is doing and yet I see all too well how easy it would be to slip into where she is.  Thank you for this post.  I must be vigilant.

Title: Re: mother and son
Post by: Hopalong on May 19, 2008, 09:35:13 PM

Seasons,

A former friend of mine had a possessive, over-involved relationship with her son that likewise grossed me out.
She would run her hands through his hair, obsess over his relationships, and control/control/control.

He had a hard time breaking away and is still struggling.

Once she even told me that she was turned on by him (though wouldn't do anything about it).

BLECCHHH. Major boundary issues.

I'm no longer seeing her and I'm glad.

love to you, and I'm very sorry you have to witness this.

Hops

Title: Re: mother and son
Post by: gratitude28 on May 20, 2008, 10:34:43 AM

Yuck, yuck, yuck...

I think my son is handsome and hilarious too. But we keep our separate lives. Yuck. That is definitely not good.

Do you think your nephew will escape??????

Love, Beth

Title: Re: mother and son
Post by: Ami on May 21, 2008, 07:23:57 AM

Dear Seasons,
 Thinking of you, dear friend!                Love   Ami

Title: Re: mother and son
Post by: James on May 21, 2008, 10:51:23 PM

Seasons....Your sister is emotionally incesting her son..... to get her own needs met at his expense. No wonder he has symptoms!.......James