Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board
Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: Overcomer on June 15, 2008, 08:51:19 PM
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When we hired my aunt we put her through much training. After she was trained we would gently tell her when she made a mistake. Hey, when ringing up a customer you need to not forget to get their phone number.........but but but, I always get a phone number and why are you being so mean and everyone makes mistakes.
You know? Just remember to get the phone number next time............no need to be defensive.................this was not a personal afront...........just reminding you to get a phone number........
Here on the board. When someone calls someone on something I see a whole lot of defensiveness. On the other hand, I also see people calling people on stuff without saying WHO did the stuff - thus Dr. G's rule to identify who you are talking to.
It would be so refreshing to hear someone say, "Hey, did I come across that way? I did not mean to come across that way......let me rephrase what I was trying to say....rather than.................I AM NOW DRAWING A BOUNDARY WITH YOU!!! Or YOU ARE TRYING TO BULLY ME!! OR WHATEVER.........
Guys.......am I coming across as a "know-it-all?" Tell me. I will try to rephrase what I am saying........I can take a direct retort.....I won't get mad. I won't get defensive.
No one in particular just everyone right now............
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You made me laugh so....
I guess you're still coming accross as Mike Luckovitch. '
The nerve!
hee
Lighter
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Yeah, maybe I am funny................. :lol: But I mean it. People cry way too much in life. Live and let live!! Laugh at yourself!! It is NOT that serious!
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nope OC
--well understood and am in agreement
I know what you are saying.
Some posts are not labeled to whom, and can land 'out of order' on the thread and in one case the poster before a "defensive attack" was not the person. The "defensive attack" was meant for the person TWO posts above. It definitely caused a misunderstanding.
Iz
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When things get confused as Izzy mentions, the posts erupt into Travis Bickle impressions: "You talkin' ta me? You talkin' ta me? You must be, because ther's no one else here...!!!!"
C.
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Yep and all the defensiveness and inuendo sent Lollie and Oops packing......
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Recalling the clarity of postings on the "Healthy Community" thread, and elsewhere, I do think it was to due to the ongoing current and flow of " Relational Aggression " here.
Leah x