Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board
Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: Hopalong on June 19, 2008, 03:39:35 PM
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In addition to loving the board, I'm using the board, to escape duties in my life.
I am finding that it's a handy escape. It's also wonderful.
But I've elevated escapism of many sorts to an art form and I need to challenge this.
Typing is not living and I need to be doing more living. Taking care of so much stuff.
It's very embarrassing to say I'm taking a break and have it last 48 hours. :oops:
For me, that says the addictive and dependent parts of my brain are involved.
So...this is just to say that my intention is to back off now.
I'll certainly come back.
With much love to everyone.
And heartfelt thanks,
Hops
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Hops,
In support of your extraordinary effort to draw this boundary for yourself,
I will not pm you.
It won't be easy,
but I do love you that much.
So just please know that I'm cheering you on, silently and faithfully.
Carolyn
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Well, I would like that you come back in 12 hours. Just a rest. A nap, a siesta.
We love you and need you.
So, do not wait too much :shock:
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Hops,
I wish you'd luck with the papers, your brother, and the weeds - but I know you have help and I know you have everything you need to do what you intend to do in fine style.
I am facing a similar situation... considering similar intentions.
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I know, Hops.
About the time I had the time to reconnect, and needed to work through some stuff, things here had already erupted. And I have spent too much time on the board, hoping that things would get back on even keel in time for me to get some much needed feedback.
Ah well.
Now I really do need to make sure that I am not using the board to avoid stuff that I am probably not going to be able to work through here. So, I understand your dilemma...
Keep in touch, sweet Hopsy.
Much love,
CB
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Thoughts of you, Hops
sincerely wishing you well in all your endeavours.
hoping you accomplish much, and enjoy your garden too.
Love, Leah
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Have fun in the garden(lol) Ami
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Dearest Hops
I love you and want to hear from you that all is well.
I do know about the addictive part of this Board, and the friendship and the PMs and when I stop to think about it, I could drop off the end of the earth and no one would know what happened...................and it is the same for all of us, basically.
Our only contact is here, but we will wait for you to finish all the paperwork, get your house in order, and not feel abandoned by you, because we all love you and want the best for you.
So you just hunker down there, kiddo
and make us PROUD!
LOVE
Izzy
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I use the board - to escape the lonliness and the reality about what I must do to address the issues that are staring me straight in the face. I don't want to deal with those issues. I would rather come here and post away to friend and foe and have some communication rather than clean up the mess created by growing up with N parents.
Time to clean up. I've been waiting for them to clean it up for me and then give me a maid and some money to finance the maid for the rest of my life. But I have to clean up. and I don't wanna!!!!
Don't wanna!!
Don't wanna!
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Considering the theatre your life's playing out in, Hops....
it's almost more a form of passive resistance.....
than self sabotage.
Just participating in a toxic arena of life.....
is harmful.
Who wouldn't/doesn't shrink away from the daily minutia of being involved with toxins?
It's not an uplifting experience to deal with your mother's paperwork,
your brother's problematic legal games.....
your own bills, which weren't any fun on a good day, sans the dysfunctional FOO piled on top.
It's so very difficult to give up what is ours and what we're entitled to.....
whatever that may be.
Having things stolen from you.....
be it good enough mam.....
what you've earned with your own blood, sweat and tears.....
or the best of your heart, always available and extended, time after futile time.....
giving up and walking away, without requiring justice or validation from the offenders....
::shaking head::
just soooo hard.
I think it's more complicated than simple playing out old expectations and self sabotage.
Not sure about that....
but, I'm sure I'd really miss your voice.
Lighter
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Adore you, Hops. And I love your honesty in your posts. Please take good care of yourself and know I will keep you in my prayers.
Love, Beth
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Hops,
Take care of your needs.. It's not goodbye just be seeing you ....and I'll miss ya while your gone
Love
Deb
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Oh ((Hops)) I echo each and every loving thought of you.
You have always been so kind to me, always. I love you for all your talents, humor, wisdom and most of all your heart.
Your voice will be missed.
Wishing you delightful days ahead in your garden, you deserve an abundance of blossoms and fruit.
Holding you close as you work through your FOO situation. Knowing you will prevail through it all.
Much love to you dear friend, enjoy your break as your life awaits you. We will be here waiting for your joyous return. seasons