Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board
Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: Izzy_*now* on June 25, 2008, 10:39:27 PM
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---is rather interesting because if a friend of mine posts, then
I get to see
What the No Contactee
Has to say about me
and it's all crazee
Cuz I have a thick hide
Have said what's inside
And that my brain was fried
By parents' false pride.
So all things groovie
I'm gonna watch a movie
And whoever you be
Can sit on your.........................thumb.
Izzy
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OK. I'm going to play the moron here. Isn't no contact something one does instead of requesting someone else not do? I mean if you say don't talk to me and "they" keep talking, and you say ain't it awful they're still talking; isn't that a game?
I think no contact means no matter what someone else does or says, you will not respond. It's painful but effective, no?
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hi lupine
If the person who wants no contact with me reads my threads, I cannot stop her;
OR
If I read her threads , she cannot stop me.
....but by reading these threads where we are not allowed to post, we can see what gossip, about ourself, is being posted by the other.
Clear?
Back to my movie--just have to check in!
Izzy
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Hi bean,
Have you ever been in the state of Georgia when gnats hatch out by the millions and swarm? I have. They invade your eye, nose, ears, all the exposed parts. There's no getting away from them. You don't just make a decision, I'm going to ignore the gnats today. You can't. They follow you, they have no sense of discretion. A human is to them, as a dog or any other attractive host. They make you their playground where they do 'the gnat thing'. They look for every vulnerable opening to annoy and do whatever it is that gnats do. My point is that unilateral NC works sometimes, but there are times when it doesn't work. If an abuser pursues you with no regard for the steps you've taken in the direction of good sense and goodwill, then, to be civil the next step is to appeal to the next level of authority. In the case of the board, Dr. G. Not trying to start anything here. Just making the point that ones decision to walk away to gain NC does not guarantee NC.
I still stand by the tenet that unless both parties understand the highminded concept that No Means No, then NC has little meaning on the board.
tt
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Hi bean,
I've been reading some of Paul Lutus' stuff. He seems to think that what he calls the Symmetry Principle trumps the law of reciprocity. He is a pretty prolific online writer on a a numbr of subjects. I agree with him on some things and disagree with him on others, but if I understand what he says about the Symmetry Principle and what I think I hear you saying, both of you have a higher regard for the Symmetry Principle than for the law of reciprocity.
Link: http://www.arachnoid.com/symmetry/human_symmetry.html
There are no gnats auguring my eyes, nose, ears, mouth, nor are they feasting on my little dog's private parts (speaking of what do they eat). So I'm relatively at ease today. :lol:
tt