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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: Izzy_*now* on July 15, 2008, 07:58:11 PM

Title: New Therapist for me!
Post by: Izzy_*now* on July 15, 2008, 07:58:11 PM
Hi
I feel really good about how I am now.
…content
…good at my work
…no toxic people around me
…have the toxic family fenced off
…left the female therapist who wasn’t understanding
…have lost all resentment and anger
…have come to terms with a crooked leg. It’s not that bad.
…my place is clean and orderly
…have a new therapist

He is just 7 minutes away from me and because I have all my ducks in a row, and my life is built with good bricks, holding together, I want to talk with him and for him to supply the mortar for where it’s missing.

I saw him today for the first time, after I explained a lot in an email. I see him next week for 3 hours and he knows what I want, in terms of being a short-term client/patient.

He sucked in his breath and said, “Not right! Not right!” when I mentioned my sister bringing my daughter only once in 2 months. He said I was totally justified in making it an issue with her. YAYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!

(http://www.slrkelowna.ca/izzy.gif)
Title: Re: New Therapist for me!
Post by: Certain Hope on July 15, 2008, 08:09:34 PM
 :D

Good going, Izzy!  I am very, very happy for you.

Anything you'd like to share about your areas of interest and how this works out with him, I'll be listening.

Love,
Carolyn
Title: Re: New Therapist for me!
Post by: Izzy_*now* on July 15, 2008, 08:18:52 PM
Thanks Carolyn,

I had meant to mention that he could tell I had done a "mountain of introspection". I am so happy that he said that. My other therapist gave me no credit---she didn't understand!--but in her own way, and with my twisting her words, I made progress.

Imagine a 3 hour visit............I hope I get through it without having to pee!
Love
Iz

Look at the cute 'buns'
Title: Re: New Therapist for me!
Post by: Certain Hope on July 15, 2008, 08:40:39 PM
Izzy,

Yup... 3 hours sounds.... luxurious.   But I think I'd probably need an intermission worked in there someplace, too!

Seems like a wonderful sign to me, that he's already noticed and commented on all of your introspective work, Iz.
Really, I can't imagine why the other therapist didn't get it.
Maybe her goals with you were different...? But you're the one who should be setting the goals, right? I'm not even sure how it works, but the way I envision it =
once you've defined where you want to go, all they're supposed to do is help you to get there.

Do you think that learning assertiveness made the biggest difference of all, Izzy?
I think that for me, it's way up there near the top.

Love,
Carolyn


Title: Re: New Therapist for me!
Post by: gratitude28 on July 15, 2008, 08:42:32 PM
Have I ever told you you are a goddess, Izzy??? Your new therapist sounds like he is really listening and understanding~!!!!
Lots of love,
Beth
Title: Re: New Therapist for me!
Post by: changing on July 15, 2008, 09:45:42 PM
Dearest Izzy-

I am happy for you and admire all that you have done. Your therapist is fortunate to have such a special person in his life!!!

Love,

Changing
Title: Re: New Therapist for me!
Post by: Izzy_*now* on July 15, 2008, 09:53:37 PM
Hi Carolyn and Beth,

Yes! This guy recognizes what I have done in the past 6 years, when he hears about the before and after. I am pleased.

The other therapist did not like labels and when I said "voiceless", she asked what I meant.
When I said I liked to nibble on frozen, but they never really freeze, bran muffins, she turned up her nose and I said to myself, "OK I'm gone!" She had no control over her responses.

She put me into a mold and tried to work with it!

Definitely!!!!!!!!! Assertiveness was the answer for me. The woman at work who dragged me out by the wheelchair (and I asserted myself) was over in Europe and the Newsletter is due. Before she left I said in an email that I wanted it by July 15th, No Later, so I had time to make the webpages, and then be ready for any of her changes, and then link when the N/L was maiiled.

That was like an "Order" and By Golly, I received it in the email on the 14th

I see you changing!!!!!

And thank you very much

all of you

xxIzzy
Title: Re: New Therapist for me!
Post by: changing on July 15, 2008, 10:09:52 PM
GO GET EM TIGER!!!!

XXOOXX,

C.
Title: Re: New Therapist for me!
Post by: gratitude28 on July 15, 2008, 10:16:01 PM
Gosh, Izzy, she must have been a real turd. Why couldn't you say that you liked semi-frozen muffins? That's charming!!! My girlfriend from high school is very wealthy, but can't stand to waste food. So she keeps old bananas in her freezer to use for muffins or bread... except she doesn't always get to making them, so the freezer gets too full of bananas and she is forced to throw them out. I love that about her. I am so glad you sent her packing and found a decent doctor!!!!! Just imagine - you made personal progress with the quack - with a good doctor you might become frivolously happy :) :)
Love, Beth
Title: Re: New Therapist for me!
Post by: Izzy_*now* on July 15, 2008, 11:11:18 PM
Just might be so, Beth:

(http://www.slrkelowna.ca/dancingMouse.gif)(http://www.slrkelowna.ca/dancingMouse.gif)

and funny about freezing bananas...never occurred to me. I just buy two and 5 days later 1 is left and getting speckled skin and feels mooshy....sometimes I eat, sometimes not.

Hey changing
Tigers are so cute
I cannot find a fierce one!!

Love Izzy x 2
Title: Re: New Therapist for me!
Post by: LilyCat on July 16, 2008, 10:01:38 AM
Hey Izzy,

That is just great. He sounds terrific -- the other sounds like she should leave the profession -- and I hope you get a lot out of it -- maybe even more than you're seeking.

I think the frozen muffin thing is cool. I don't do it much, but I have enjoyed a bite or piece of frozen cake in my lifetime. It's kinda fun, and different. I love the way baked goods don't really freeze. It's so courageous of them!!

Just like you.

LC
Title: Re: New Therapist for me!
Post by: sKePTiKal on July 16, 2008, 01:18:00 PM
Oh Iz - 3 whole hours! Better than a bubble bath with champagne!

I'm happy for you. Sounds like you "click"... and I'll bet your T is happy to work with someone on the "mortar" issues and filling in the gaps. Probably the beginning of a great working relationship...

POI-fect!  :D
Title: Re: New Therapist for me!
Post by: Izzy_*now* on July 16, 2008, 06:20:32 PM
hi LC and PR

Yep, 3 hours. Never heard of that before, but one hour seems so short.

I went rat-a-tat-tat and covered nearly 69 years in 53 minutes.....well not really, but had just about every basic there for him to mull over..... close to a minte per year!  :lol:  :lol:  :lol:  :lol:  :shock:

He's a good listener and when I hit a "bump in the road" I stopped to explain, or ask something, or say that 'there was where I made a wrong move!" and he agreed..... so all was great!

I bought raisin scones this week and froze them and eat them from frozen, as the first I thawed and it fell into crumbs, almost.
Izzy

Title: Re: New Therapist for me!
Post by: sKePTiKal on July 17, 2008, 11:40:37 AM
Oh Iz...

I think I envy you three whole hours of validation and confirmation and being "heard" and recognized. Witnessed, as Ami would say.
It just sounds like a wonderful, wonderful gift to yourself.

You sound elated! That's just so, so wonderful ....
Title: Re: New Therapist for me!
Post by: LilyCat on July 17, 2008, 12:07:36 PM
Yeah, Izzy, that sounds terrific!! When do you see him again?
Title: Re: New Therapist for me!
Post by: Izzy_*now* on July 17, 2008, 01:24:43 PM
Hi PR and LC

3 hours ought to accomplish a lot at once. I just hope i won't have to use the facilities. (My first thought when he said 3 hours.) I still cannot stand (bear weight) to hang onto the chair and pull up my drawers and all, and I won't go anywhere with a dress and no panties.  :lol:  :lol:  :lol:  :shock:

It's next Tuesday, 22nd, 1:00-4:00.

Love
Izzy
Title: Re: New Therapist for me!
Post by: axa on July 18, 2008, 11:18:24 AM
Izzy,
 
So pleased that you will be working with someone who can see YOU.

I want to comment on the list you write in the initial posting on this thread.  It was inspiring.  I am working on putting my life in order so that I can write such an inspirational list.

hugs,

axa
Title: Re: New Therapist for me!
Post by: Izzy_*now* on July 18, 2008, 12:06:18 PM
Thank you axa,

I look forward to what this guy can glean from my lost list of horrors overcome!

He is bound to fill in some gaps for me. I truly hope.

I was surprised about the other therapist, as she appeared to be on the ball as we started, then appeared to be grasping for how to deal with me.

hugs back
Izzy
Title: Re: New Therapist for me!
Post by: LilyCat on July 21, 2008, 09:34:54 AM
Hi Izzy,

...I'm sure you will/can get a break in there if you need to. But it might fly by so fast that you barely feel like you've started when it's over.

Will be thinking of you, then (your appt time).

xoxo

Lily
Title: Re: New Therapist for me!
Post by: Certain Hope on July 21, 2008, 10:15:36 PM
Hey Izzy,

Was just thinking about your day tomorrow and... I'm still so excited for you!

I hope it goes just as well and satisfying-ly as possible, renewing your zest and vim and vigor and all that good stuff. : )

Love,
Carolyn
Title: Re: New Therapist for me!
Post by: sKePTiKal on July 22, 2008, 01:03:52 PM
Hope today goes along well and meets your expectations, Iz....

be sure to let us know what happened, how you feel AFTER....
Title: Re: New Therapist for me!
Post by: Izzy_*now* on July 22, 2008, 01:53:44 PM
Thank you

Lily, Carolyn and Amber,

What'll I wear? What'll I wear? What'll I wear!!   :lol:  :lol:  :lol:

Heaven knows what is ahead. All I remember is that the first hour is Orientation. I pretty well took up last week with a year a minute, allowing his interjections. ..............so.........forget what he said for hours 2 & 3. I must have been thinking of writing a cheque for $330.00  :( :( :( :(

Anybody become a little nervous when listening and the words go in one ear and out the other?

Okay 2 hours to go--

Later
Izzy
Title: Re: New Therapist for me!
Post by: LilyCat on July 23, 2008, 09:15:36 AM
Ok, Izzy -- everyone's waiting! How did it go????????????????

And more important -- what did you wear???
Title: Re: New Therapist for me!
Post by: Izzy_*now* on July 23, 2008, 03:26:53 PM
Thank you for the good laugh Lily Cat.!!!

I just wore a 20 year old blouse and 12 year old clamdiggers.

I was whizzing along on the other thread, when my Virus scan popped up. I closed it and it closed me right out of Explorer--what I had typed and all and yes, I usually do it in Word, but I was trying to follow the posts, so I must start over--- to you, PR, Beth, Deb, Carolyn

Murphy's Law!

See you on my other Therapy thread when I get some thinking going again!

Love
Izzy