Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board
Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: Overcomer on February 22, 2009, 10:50:01 AM
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Hello all. Since this forum is dwindling and I dearly miss you all, I would like to invite you to a new forum.
Dr. Karyl McBride wrote a book which I was interviewed for. The website is Nevergoodenough.com
This is a wonderful website. Could we use the same names so we can find each other??
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Hey Kell,
Thank Ya....I'm In. I can use my same name. I'll check it out later I'm in the middle of painting which was only supposed to be my bathroom and now tearing through the whole house.
Love
Deb
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I signed up.
Might take me a while to get into the habit of checking in there, but yup...
thanks, Kelly, for thinking of a way for us all to stay in touch.
PS--Can Mud be an honorary daughter? I wish it wasn't restricted by gender or even direct biorelationship!!
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Thanks Kelly
It sounds good.
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Hi Kell,
I signed up too under my name now. Didn't post yet and I hope they welcome me there as you all did here. Yup different things with different people but all of Us sharing N experience not matter if we were born into it or married it.
Don't Know Kell if they only really want M/D? I am concerned about that it seems pretty confined to wanting that.
Love
Deb
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Hi OC,
Thanks for this lead. I'd like to tap into it.
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I do not go there very much. Feel like a newbie, etc. But if we all went there we could have some comradarie...
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I tried to sign up but got a message that someone with my website already has an account. Guess I registered some time ago and forgot my username and password. Unfortunately, there is no way to get a new password so I guess I could get a new e-mail and try again. I may do that if I Iread here that people are really going there.
It is interesting to me that she is looking for mother/daughter pairs. My Nish mother would no more participate than fly to the moon. I'm wondering if truly N or Nish mothers really would or if the people who would are only in possession of N-traits or something.
Neither one of my N parents have ever admitted of any wrong doing or een as much as acknowledged any errors - EVER. They were perfect parents whose only error was in having a useless, ungrateful daughter who never lived up to their expectations or their fine name.
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Frankly, after being in this forum, then reading on that forum, I find they are still "blaming Mom' without trying to understand that generations happened before Mom. They can stop that with No Contact.
It almost sounds like a contest as to who was hurt the most by a Mom!
I'm not for the N behaviour that puts us all in a quandry, and that sometimes takes us a while to figure out, but once we know, then we take action. We go NC and that is that!
NC has helped me SO much with parents, siblings, my daughter's ex, the N I met '98 -'02 and recently realizing my ex boss was a control freak, at the very least.
I am such an N magnet, or have seen so many, that my NC has left me without a really good friend in 3-D who understands.
I am winging on my own and I prefer my own company to the Ns of this world. I have workmates and e-buddys and I watch very carefully that I never attract another N.
I read a lot, work, and watch movies and have learned to live alone and like it, in comparison to invitiing just anyone into my life, just for company. Sometimes I feel a bit lonely, but that is far better than listening to N garbage!
Today I called a guy I went to school with 55 years ago. He saw my brother at a funeral back east, last May, and Ian asked about me, as he always thought I was hot stuff...when he was 13 and I was 15. Now we are 67 and 69 and he has been married for 47 years, 4 girls and 11 grandchildren.
We talked for over 2 hours and it was just great.... just the kind of interaction from another nice person and talking about all the people in common that we know. It was great. Really great! I envy his wife!
Izzy
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GS - I'm having trouble logging in there, too.
email: forum@nevergoodenough.com for help.
Izzy's "read" on that site strikes me as a warning, of sorts... I can appreciate that there is a phase in recovery where it helps to express those feelings of hurt and abandonment - and that it lasts as long as it lasts for each person. Finding others who understand first-hand, is very necessary, too. For me, I'm working through letting all that go and that kind of conversation only serves to keep my focus on what can't be changed - for me - anymore. Reading other's experiences - now - only serves to bring up all those feelings in my own situation that I want to let drift into "past history".