Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board
Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: Hopalong on May 05, 2009, 03:07:21 PM
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Hi Doc G,
You ever want to tell your own story?
You'd have loving listeners here...
love,
Hops
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Hi Hops,
Thanks for the offer! I’ve told pieces of my “story” over the years. Some of them are in “Talks and Personal Essays” and "Psychotherapy" on the essay part of my web site (www.voicelessness.com/essay.html). I’ll try to gather the links and put them here. Bump, Bump, Bump (www.voicelessness.com/bump,_bump,_bump.html) in some ways captures the essence from a psychological perspective. (But there’s a whole lot of genetics that needs to be thrown into the mix!)
Best,
Richard
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Dear Richard
I was moved by your Bump Bump story. Thank you for sharing it. Ami
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Sorry for prying, Doc...I need to return to your essays and remind myself they're you.
And of COURSE you can't narrate it all direclty, ferPete's sake, you don't have the privacy we do.
I'm a thickwit.
A grateful one.
Hops
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Dr. G,
I can relate to the Bump, Bump, Bump essay.
(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Dr. G)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
Bones
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Dear Richard,
Do you feel you have overcome voicelessness? Will the voiceless child always be inside you?How do you see your life now,in terms of voicelessness. If I am asking questions which are too personal, I apologize and withdraw them. Ami
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Hi Ami,
In myself and my work, I don’t like to think of issues or experiences being “overcome.” Instead, I think of them as being added to. If you receive enough experience with “voice”, and most often this requires a therapist, you lay down another set of “tracks” in your brain—such that you are able to experience the world in another way. But you don’t lose the first set—although they may become somewhat rusty with disuse. The part of me that had very little control or agency growing up is still there. And it’s actually very useful to me—to help me to understand, to empathize, to be sensitive, to feel vulnerable. Without the experience, I would not be who I am today (e.g., I’d be a lousy therapist!). The downside, if you will (but nothing I would willingly give up), is a hyperawareness and a hypersensitivity, and a diminished sense of self-love (or what the profession calls “healthy narcissism”). Of course, these characteristics have a lot to do with genetics as well...
Best,
Richard
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Thanks, Bones. I'm glad the essay resonated...
Richard
p.s. No problem, Hops!
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Ami,
I started a new thread, "Narcissism (the disorder) vs. 'healthy narcissism'", with your question.
Best,
Richard
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My Question is can I use some of your articles on my own website PLease
I would honouir your copyrights and any tou.
also am I allowed to add a link to my own site
Thank You phoenician
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Hi Phoenician,
Welcome! Feel free to use the articles on your website--please put a link to www.voicelessness.com on each article you publish. Absolutely include a link here to your site--I'm sure many people will want to visit. The only issues are: if your real name is attached to your website, you will lose anonymity here--if that's a concern to you. And, assuming you have posted a e-mail address on your site, Board members will have a way of contacting you independent of the Voicelessness Message Board--this compromises your privacy. I just want to make sure you've thought about these issues.
Best,
Richard