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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: Lupita on August 15, 2009, 08:17:06 AM

Title: Little steps and progress
Post by: Lupita on August 15, 2009, 08:17:06 AM

Dear Friends, you have no idea how proud I feel today. Yesterday in Tango class, one man was rude to me, he was impatient and did not want to continue dancing with me because I do not raise to his standards. He dances very well.

I just switched partners and kept going. I did not feel offended and I dcid not feel bad.

Some time ago, that would have been anough to make me sad for several days, and maybe drop out of the class. Last night I enjoyed with other students more to my level, I am a beginned in tango, and had fun.

I will not dance with him again. I will not even bother to look at him again. But the most important, is that I do not feel bad and I did not feel bad. He is irritabl;e and that is his problem, not mine.


Love you all.

Lupita

Title: Re: Little steps and progress
Post by: Ami on August 15, 2009, 08:48:16 AM

That is really big, Lupita!  What has changed you ?   Ami

Title: Re: Little steps and progress
Post by: Hopalong on August 15, 2009, 01:05:56 PM

You changed your reflex, Lup!

You chose not to take offense.

Wow. I am so very impressed.

That is HUGE.

Joy for you!  :lol: This fills me with hope and positivity for you.

If you can do this, you can have a happy life.

It's everything. It will lead from dance partners to other people, even family.

It is the key to the cell door.

It is the first sign of wellness, healing from Ndamage.

So, so happy and delighted to read this.

love,
Hops

Title: Re: Little steps and progress
Post by: lighter on August 15, 2009, 03:07:26 PM

Whew!  What a great post to read from you, Lupe.

You handled that situation wonderfully.... congratulations: )

Mo2

Title: Re: Little steps and progress
Post by: seasons on August 15, 2009, 04:50:52 PM

Lupita

Good for "YOU"  :)

Feels good I'm sure!

Dance away.............seasons

Title: Re: Little steps and progress
Post by: indiered on August 16, 2009, 10:47:55 PM

Lupita,

Your response to the situation is very inspiring to me!

Thanks for sharing it. Indiered

Title: Re: Little steps and progress
Post by: Lupita on August 17, 2009, 07:57:57 AM

Well, that was just for the moment. Now, after a few days, I feel a little down on my tango. It is a very difficult dance and men do not want to dance with you if you do not know how to react to his lead.

So, I have been thinking on leaving tango, give up. But I know my self, I will not give up. But, yes, I have to admit that I let it put me down a little. I was depressed ofr a few days and I did not know why. I do believe that I was faking the good attitud. It helped anyway. Fake it till you make it. It helped to be faking I was OK.

So, it is a little step backwards but it is still an improvement in how I reacted in the past.

LOve to you all.

Title: Re: Little steps and progress
Post by: indiered on August 19, 2009, 04:45:12 AM

Dear Lupita,

I once heard the phrase "act as if". I think that you are making wonderful progress. Be kind to yourself, it takes time.  Indiered