Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board

Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: Ami on September 09, 2009, 12:06:48 PM

Title: You Know What is So Neat?
Post by: Ami on September 09, 2009, 12:06:48 PM

Children of N's are  insightful, funny, witty, aware. I am amazed at the posts I read here. You would think we would be dense like the N's but we're not.
Have you ever thought about that? I do every time I read a  story from a  new member or even posts from long time members. Somehow the N did not make us clueless automans like they.                           Ami

Title: Re: You Know What is So Neat?
Post by: Portia on September 09, 2009, 07:31:04 PM

Treasures.

Title: Re: You Know What is So Neat?
Post by: Ami on September 09, 2009, 08:00:30 PM

((((Portia)))))   You are one!                   Ami

Title: Re: You Know What is So Neat?
Post by: Twoapenny on September 10, 2009, 02:41:57 AM

Hi Ami,

I've noticed this as well, not just on-line but also in real life.  People I meet who are fun, friendly, warm and full of empathy often have experienced major problems in their lives.  I suppose people cope with adversity in different ways; some learn from it and use it to change their behaviour and their perception of life and others don't!  I have a group of 'mum' friends (women I've met through various mum and baby groups) and there are a small cluster who, to me, have it all.  Their children are healthy, they live in nice houses, they're married, yet they moan constantly and talk as if life is a big long energy drain.  In particular, they moan about their children constantly.  I don't understand this - they wanted to have children, one or two tried for years before falling pregnant with their second or third babies, their kids are healthy - so why moan constantly?  Yet I've other 'mum' friends who've had real problems - marriage breakdown, domestic violence, bereavement etc - and their attitude is 'well, that's life - you just get on with it'.  It's funny but I prefer being around people who've had problems, they seem more 'real' to me.

Great thread, thanks for starting it.

Hugs to you xx

Title: Re: You Know What is So Neat?
Post by: Ami on September 10, 2009, 07:22:47 AM

((((Twoapenny)))) It is so neat to have all these new members with new  perspectives. It is like finding a new group of friends. You have a good point about  the differences in people you meet.
For some people, their usual defense mechanisms still work and they don't need to mine a spiritual dimension or a deeper emotional one.Tonight, I am having dinner with a couple like that. The woman is that way more than the man.
 I am not really looking forward to it.                       xxxx Ami