Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board
Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: Overcomer on April 03, 2010, 11:36:51 AM
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Right now I am in anger mode. I am pissed at everyone. The driver who is tailgating me. The too slow driver who is holding me back. My husband when he has to be asked to take out the trash. But most of all, the N mother who will never EVER be my hero. She is always a disappointment.
I have come right out and told her, I don't like to ask for things. I need for her to hear me once and then remember so I don't have to ask for anything.
She never surprises me with a nice overture. I have to ask. I had to ask her to come to Mayo with me. I have to ask, ask, ask.
She told me she would give me some of my inheritance before I die. In other words, so I don't have to worik. But the deal is, I think I will have to ask her for money every single two weeks. This causes me so much stress. I found that every time I am stressed, my pain flares up. I have even told her I cannot take the stress. I asked her to ask the accountant how she should set it up so if and when I die, she gets it back. So payday was yesterday and no money from mom (it was my first pay period with no money from the business.) I do NOT NOT NOT want to ask her or remind her. I put something on my facebook status talking about my love language. It was a great big hint which (of course) she did not get.....
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Ok, I just sent her an email. Officially doing what I said I would not do. I keep giving her the chance to be my hero and she never does.
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Is there any othe way this could be handled overcomer?
Like, is there someone else who could take this on, the communication re the money. Of course its embarrassing, and compromising to have to ask for what you've already been offererd. And very N.ish to put herself in that position, by 'sleight of hand', ....
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Kelly, I am so sorry.
They never change , do they, no matter how much we want them to?
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So sorry Kelly. It kind of puts you at her mercy. Better to have it written in stone or automatic withdrawl from her account into yours.
Hugs,
Sea storm
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Kelly,
You DESERVE to be angry!!! The stress isn't good for your health but maybe just letting that anger out will help a little??? My closet took alot of my anger in the past. Pick up that shoe - throw it against the wall - do it AGAIN!!
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I would move to another state and cut off contact entirely.
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I'm sorry your mother cannot come through when you need her so much.
Thinking of you Kelly.
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Kelly,
Is there a therapist near you who can help you with your anger? It would be much better for you to feel peace & healing. I wish you peaceful, healing vibes.
xoxo,
ann