Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board
Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: Ales2 on July 06, 2010, 02:12:03 AM
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Anyone have any experience with pregnancy after 40? Any inspiring stories out there? I need to hear one....thanks!
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My Mom had me at 40 and here I yam! I was a month early.
And my daughter's father mother had him when she was 46.
:lol: (Oops! Well, she was a manly woman...h/t Mud.) :lol:
No complications, and he was 6' 4" and a genius. (Straight As throughout school/college.)
Planning to take the plunge?
Hops
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And my daughter's father had him when she was 46.
Is this one of those trick questions where we're supposed to figure out who is related to whom?
I'm drawing a blank myself.
mud
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Mud, see edit.
Sigh.
You're so literal.
:P
Hops
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Heehee Hopsy....I think you made it worse! But so funny!
And my daughter's mother had him when she was 46.
Laughing (Oops! Well, she was a manly woman...h/t Mud.)
CB :lol:
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And my daughter's father mother had him when she was 46.
Hops,
OK, now my head is swimming. I think CB's right; it's even worse now.
Your daughter's mother would be you right? But your daughter is still a him who is 6'4"?
If it's possible for a mudpuppy to drown I'm getting close.
mud
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confusion reigns supreme
:D :D :D :D :D
My daughter's mother is me---
I was over 40 when my daughter was preggers--does that count? --that was easier on me
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Oh crap! :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :P :P :P :P :P
My daughter's GRANDMOTHER had her father (meaning her son, my daughter's father) when she (my daughter's grandmother, my ex's mother) was 46.
Tee HEE.
Details, details...
:lol:
Hops
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Suddenly it all makes sense, Hops.
Admittedly unsolicited but suggested rewrite of the first post: "My ex's mother was 46 when she had him".
Would have saved a lot of pixels. :D :P
mud
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I got pregnant at 39 and freaked out. I was nervous throughout my entire pregnancy from the online crap I read one night and vowed to only read positive things. My baby was perfect. She was almost 3 weeks early as I had to be induced for high blood pressure. I never developed Pre eclampsia but it was high enough for them to enduce me and I was able to deliver naturally. I turned 40 during my 7 month of pregnancy and my baby was a bouncy rolly-polly 8 pounds 2.5 ounces!!!! :P :P :P :shock:
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wow - thanks for the stories and thank you Hops for the humor. I'm not taking the plunge I was just curious about others who had. And, for the record, I am 42 now. ugh. an ugly number. :x
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Hey - 42 is just a number!
You're "old enough to know better" but still young enough to enjoy disregarding that!
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Twins at 40!! All went well.
Note of caution: Keep Nmom out of delivery room and hospital. In fact, don't even tell her until it is all over (and the baby is in college.)
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Hi Mud,
Suddenly it all makes sense, Hops.
Admittedly unsolicited but suggested rewrite of the first post: "My ex's mother was 46 when she had him".
Would have saved a lot of pixels. :D :P
mud
I think you've confirmed my worst fear - that when I leave white space above and below my posts, I'm wasting pixels?
Or are there pixels only where the print is? Looking forward to your kind, sweet, and thoughtful reply... :lol:
tt
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Twins at 40!! All went well.
Note of caution: Keep Nmom out of delivery room and hospital. In fact, don't even tell her until it is all over (and the baby is in college.)
PRICELESS!!!!
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Yes yes - no NMoms in the hospital. A friend had the same problem with her Mother. When they wheeled her into delivery, she was on a fetal monitor and when her mother came into her room the moms and babies heart rate would jump. first the nurses told Nmom to wait outside. She told them she doesn't take orders from nurses. They got the doctor. first the dr asked her to "wait outside" and when she refused, he told her she was risking the baby. Nmom called the dr a liar so he showed her the monitor with the ticker running. she still refused. he just turned to the nurse and said get security. she was escorted out all while my friend was in labor and was not allowed permission to even enter the hospital without written permission from the doctor. Nism at its worst, she never once cared about how my friend (her daughter) felt, she just wanted her way. ugh.
And, yes, yes, yes to twins!
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This morning when I got up - I just remember this moment in high school when my mother told me that the WORST thing that could ever happen to a girl is to get pregnant..... I was 15, so maybe she really did mean GIRL but it seems her attitude toward pregnancy never changed, not when I was 25, 30 or 35, and when my brother and his grifriend had an unplanned pregancy (he 25, she 26) she thought it really WAS the WORST THING ever....so here I find myself wondering all this time, why is it that I dont have kids? Why is it that I missed this part of MY life....
As I mulled over this thought...and thought her about an N I thought....I get it ......she never wanted me to have a child because it would change HER life.....
Anyone else ever felt something like this?
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I found my pregnancies, one at 37 and one at 39, were both easy and boring, while one of my SIL's had 3 nightmare pregnancies in her twenties.
I think some women are built for easy pergnancies and some aren't.
Mo2
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((((Ales))))
The question beneath the question?
What is your psyche telling you? Or perhaps it's your hormones?
(You can endure these messages and they will pass in time, if that's the choice.
You won't always be pulled...)
You thinking about it? Even w/o the picket fence?
love,
Hops
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Hops - I am definitely being pulled. I've always wanted kids, always wanted a family. I wont do it alone, because that is not what I want. I took me a very long time to figure out why I have such difficulty connecting with others and discovering my mother is an N and why certain things are very hard me suddenly makes sense. Now that I am getting stronger, I'm feeling like I would be a good mother and I know I would never get any support or acceptance from her (and why) and I can live without it - although its still sad to me. So, maybe I'm more ready than I've ever been assuming its not too late for me. I know alot of friends have had babies late - but not all of their reasons were the same as mine, so I was looking on the board for others with similar learning curves.
thanks all for your support.