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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board => Topic started by: debkor on October 29, 2010, 10:50:03 PM
Title: Kelly
Post by: debkor on October 29, 2010, 10:50:03 PM
Hi Kelly,
Just have been thinking about you and how you are. If you get a chance check in. Your in my thoughts.
Love Deb
Title: Re: Kelly
Post by: Ami on November 03, 2010, 09:25:23 PM
I think about you, often, Kelly!!!!
Title: Re: Kelly
Post by: ann3 on November 04, 2010, 01:53:46 PM
I hope you are doing well, Kelly.
Title: Re: Kelly
Post by: Overcomer on November 24, 2010, 11:08:39 AM
I am doing well. My Tumors are shrinking due to a clinical trial up at Mayo. I am still dealing with drunken h. Almost at the end of my rope there. Mom is still as self centered and stupid as usual and I think she is getting dementia as well. My brother is willing to lose the inheritance to not have to deal with her! As Mud suggested I applied for disability and got it! So I live and hope to live a lot longer.
Title: Re: Kelly
Post by: mudpuppy on November 24, 2010, 01:44:29 PM
Good to hear the positive news Kelly. You're living up to your user name. :D
mud
Title: Re: Kelly
Post by: Hopalong on November 24, 2010, 02:04:26 PM
Bravo Kelly and typically kind, Mud!
((((((((Kel)))))))) peace to you. So glad the tumors are shrinking and soon hope the family dramas will shrink too.
You deserve your joys.
love, Hops
Title: Re: Kelly
Post by: ann3 on November 24, 2010, 02:17:30 PM
Wonderful news, Kelly! Wishing you continued good health :D
Title: Re: Kelly
Post by: Leah on November 25, 2010, 09:13:24 AM
I am so glad to hear the positive news, Kelly
And so agree with Mud ... "You're living up to your user name" :)
Take care of you,
Love, Leah
Title: Re: Kelly
Post by: JustKathy on November 25, 2010, 01:59:46 PM
Hi Kelly! So happy to hear that you're doing well, and that you're getting such good results from the treatment at Mayo. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving. I'll be thinking of you. :)
Title: Re: Kelly
Post by: Dr. Richard Grossman on November 25, 2010, 11:19:12 PM
Wonderful news, Kelly!
Thinking of you,
Richard
Title: Re: Kelly
Post by: Lupita on November 26, 2010, 06:40:33 AM
)))))))))))))))))))) Kelly (((((((((((((((((((((((((((
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Our hearts go out to you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Title: Re: Kelly
Post by: debkor on November 26, 2010, 09:42:29 AM
Hey Kell,
Great News....I'm so happy for you. Always thinking of you. Hope you had a great TG'ing..........
Love Deb
Title: Re: Kelly
Post by: Overcomer on November 26, 2010, 11:15:52 AM
On a computer now so I rant..........
First of all, I think I told you all that my cancer spread and was officially labeled "mestatic sarcoma..." Stage IV. Like I said in my previous post, I am involved in a clinical trial up at Mayo in Minnesota. Apparently I am ahead of the game and am probably the poster child for this treatment. They gave me the experiemental drug with adriamyacin (the red devil...) I am done with the Red Devil so my hair is growing back and I have more energy than I have had in the last year + . I am traveling up again on Tuesday. It is a three and 1/2 hour drive and I often make it up and back in a day. The chemo does not kick my butt so I do it alone. Occasionally I will stay in a hotel across the street. The last time I was alone and LOVED IT!! I am never without a dog or child or husband, etc.
Meanwhile, my nmom's mom (my grandma) just passed at 95. We have had quite a year. My cancer, my dad died suddenly, my husband was laid off twice due to the economy, my cousin's husband died suddenly six weeks later and six months later my husband's dad died suddenly. We had to put our dog down, my cancer came back and my grandma died. So I was looking to God with much anger and resentment. Why oh why?? But I went to visit friends from junior high. One had a stroke five years ago at the age of 45 and I saw how much faith and diligence that family had during her ordeal. I finally gave in and apologized to God. Then, I got my good news about the tumor and my husband got a good job.
When I got sick I point blank asked my mom to give me my inheritance NOW since she would probably outlive me. She basically said NO, but gives me little bits as I beg. That is her MO. She never gives unless you beg.
Also our business that has been a source of contention between us for sixteen years is failing. The folks from the marketing group we use point blank told her she needs to close. When my cancer came back I told her I would NEVER WORK WITH HER AGAIN!!
She is going through the motions of "selling." It is all bogus. She has no plans to sell. She is just playing the game as she always does. She doesn't hesitate to write out a $100,000 check to keep the business going (good money after bad) but won't give my brother or I anything unless we beg then it is just enough to keep us from going under but not enough to be comfortable.
Oh, well. Again, you can tell she is getting dementia but she won't hear of having herself tested, etc. SHe says things like, "you wish i had alzheimers." or "you wish blah blah blah....." I told her I wouldn't wish her to get dementia because then I would have to take care of her and that would NOT be fun!! Paranoia.
I am sorry I haven't been on in so long. I have only one laptop and my daughter pretty much takes it over for hours at a time.......
Love to you all....Kelly
Title: Re: Kelly
Post by: Overcomer on November 26, 2010, 11:20:07 AM
Oh, and the drunken h? This has been going on for nine years. He told me he wouldn't drink at home but just stick to social drinking. I basically told him I didn't believe him and that his pattern is to be good for awhile and then slide into a drunken frenzy which makes me threaten divorce which makes him good again. Such a vicious cycle because i never follow through, etc.
Also, I am thinking of going to get my Masters in Psychology/Therapy. I figure if I die I will die with a Masters. If I live I have a career....
Title: Re: Kelly
Post by: sKePTiKal on November 28, 2010, 08:36:37 AM
Kelly - I love your moxie! You "got it", I think... whatever "it" is! :D
I'm glad your chemo doesn't lay you out. It's so important to not "feel ill" as you are getting better. I'm not sure this is possible for everyone - but it's a huge blessing when it is. Feeling positive and not letting an illness completely dominate your life or limit you... is better medicine than anything else.
Heck, maybe you'll feel like getting the Phd after the masters! Why not?
hugs,
Title: Re: Kelly
Post by: debkor on November 28, 2010, 10:19:06 AM