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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival => What Helps? => Topic started by: KayZee on December 30, 2011, 08:54:18 AM

Title: Rapunzel, Daughter of a Closet Narcissist by Gudrun Zomerland
Post by: KayZee on December 30, 2011, 08:54:18 AM
Surfing the iNet and found the following essay (www.chinnstreetcounseling.com/zomerland/zomerland_25.shtml) by Gudrun Zomberland.  Maybe some of you have already come across it?
 
It's all about the Brothers Grimm metaphor and what it's like to be the daughter of a narcissistic mother.  Rang incredibly true for me.  And the part about devaluation/dehumanization lent some language to feelings/suspicions/experiences I've had but never knew how to define or describe.

Anyhow, Thought I'd post it here in case it helps anyone else too....

love, Kay
Title: Re: Rapunzel, Daughter of a Closet Narcissist by Gudrun Zomerland
Post by: Leah on February 12, 2012, 09:30:49 AM
Huge "Thank You"
Title: Re: Rapunzel, Daughter of a Closet Narcissist by Gudrun Zomerland
Post by: sKePTiKal on February 13, 2012, 08:47:07 AM
Well, timing is everything.

I have no idea how I missed your post this long, KayZee. But thank you from me, also. This piece is incredibly well-written and her interpretations fit easily and don't seem to be trying to force a psychological explanation onto the symbolism at all. I am a fan of the lessons contained in the Brothers Grimm, myself. Rumpelstiltskin was pretty useful to me one point.

It does give one chills, to read all the way through, doesn't it? I certainly see how my story parallels. And it's helpful to also see myself finally in that last paragraph; I'm still working on giving up my instinct to caretake; still trying to more easily know what I need; still trying to find my motivation mojo... but I'm also able to finally recognize my efforts, no matter how small they are...

this article is a keeper!