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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Predatory grooming

« Last post by lighter on May 26, 2026, 10:24:19 AM »

Oh....I have quick turnaround karma, Hops.... shouldn't have had that giggle.  Nope, nope, nope.

 Chlorine gas exposure, at second Airbnb, handled that, toot sweet.

Toot?
Sweet?

Is that the saying?

Lighter

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2026

« Last post by sKePTiKal on May 26, 2026, 09:49:55 AM »

Yeah, the tension let go. I read trash epic fantasy novels to lull myself to sleep. Sleep helps. That and back to back rainy days! Old movies on YT. Permission to just relax and cocoon and keep B company. He's working on rebuilding the front door latch (again). Internal pieces jiggle out of alignment and stops the handle & lock from working correctly. Good thing we live where we do - I just put a chair in front of the door when we go out. It's not a strenuous job to do this - but it IS important - and he needs to keep his mind occupied. He can sit if he needs to.

Yesterday, I actually had the motivation to get up and get some more things done... so 3 days to settle down, rest and recover. Not bad.

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Mindfulness and codependence thread

« Last post by Dirty Hippy on May 25, 2026, 06:00:39 PM »

I've read four agreements long while back. My grandmother's sister who I never met sent me that book. It's the only thing she ever sent me so it stands out in my memory.

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Anything again

« Last post by Dirty Hippy on May 25, 2026, 05:57:58 PM »

AND

When I had my car I did a lot less planning for picnics and it was sublime peaceful solitude and commute almost nothing.

It's way more effort now.

So since it happens that I now have an abundance of picnic type stuff... I made pasta salad again today and cut up pickles and stuck them in a bag.. And cut up veggies... and saw I have a can of tuna in the closet... and fruit getting ripe. So I am doing it all over again to meet a different friend tomorrow. Nobody does this anymore. You would think I was prepping for a family reunion. But my friend just told me it's her birthday and she worked on her birthday so this will be sort of nice I hope. The weather is promising to be gray like Twilight movie of course. Gloomy. Shrug. There's always coffee. And then coffee = toilet stops. Sigh.

long time ago I did international travel and the amount of prep that goes into that feels almost on par with me packing a picnic. Oh well.

no art, no garden, so now just picnic packing as a hands on make something outlet I suppose

at least we are doing something that is the goal

the intense panic to have a summer in the pacific northwest

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Anything again

« Last post by Dirty Hippy on May 25, 2026, 05:47:57 PM »

- I did meet my friend to go to a street market -- a museum -- a couple well known city parks I've never been to and some other stuff and then directed her to a honky tonk bar for live music. She seems to think I hang out in bars all the time. I'm like NO ... I am finding us affordable music because going to a real concert is something you would never agree to bwahahaha and I don't have the money now anyways.

We were both exhausted by the end of the day. We ate the picnic on the tailgate in a very pretty part of the city because parking. We found parking and that is better than finding a picnic table I suppose.

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Anything again

« Last post by Dirty Hippy on May 25, 2026, 05:41:20 PM »

Hops, I tend to make things from scratch and frugally so I end up with messes because more bits.

IF you are having a kitchen disaster what if you gave yourself two weeks to clean the kitchen -- and ate only microwave burritos on paper plates for those two weeks lol. And yogurt and banana. I'm not sure what is going on there but you need some kind of strategy. Put a book on take or music. Pick one quarter of the kitchen or one counter top to clear and if there is just too much stuff for some reason... throw it away. Minimalism makes it cleaner and easier too. 

But also. I am in no position to give advice to anybody about anything.

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Mindfulness and codependence thread

« Last post by Hopalong on May 25, 2026, 09:44:00 AM »

Loved how these airport stories were stressful and celebratory at the same time, Lighter. Thanks too for the people descriptions at the bar, loved the details to chew on. Good people profiles!

I liked The Four Agreements too. A little guru-ish (to which I'm allergic) but still good advice...

hugs
Hops

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Anything again

« Last post by Hopalong on May 25, 2026, 09:35:27 AM »

Me too!
I just found Gold Bond Healing Hand Cream and really like it.

I've made such a catastrophic mess in my kitchen I am having to wash hands more than once an hour. Ugh. Add in Pup going backward with housetraining when there's chilly rain outside. Errrgghhh.

Hippy, I just realized that although I don't really understand the term well, I think your posts when you write about blankness or "write something here" might be META? So that means you're a philosopher. Sophisticated thinker.

hugs
Hops

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Predatory grooming

« Last post by Hopalong on May 25, 2026, 09:29:58 AM »

Ahh. Sorry I didn't follow who was who and what and such. Big lecture for nuttin'!

Glad cousin's doing okay and sorry about friend's child. I can imagine how any court stories could set you on edge, dear.

Maybe the most important thing here is your anxiety. Should you shield yourself a bit more from the blow by blows on court conflict stories? What would do that best for you?

I admit it was nice to ponder the stbx in the bathroom. OY!

hugs
Hops

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2026

« Last post by Hopalong on May 25, 2026, 09:24:33 AM »

As ever, what you're doing sounds like a lot of realistic and pragmatic coping. Such a thing to imagine. I've been fetal and feral lately. (House. Relationship struggles with a friend, very unexpected. Not Poet, either!)

I do wish you could bring your rubber band and monsters over here...I try to imagine what it's like to have a top-to-bottom clean house and imprisoned lover...Shades of Amber might be a very interesting flick! Snort.

Good on you for getting through a LOT lately. The inner tension is difficult, and so understandable. Now that you've done an emotional-endurance stretch, and still are with B's recovery....hope you'll plug in plenty of soothing white noise for YOU. Just a friendly background hum or vibration that tells you: you are safe and you are loved.

hugs
Hops