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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Adventures in renovations... again
« Last post by lighter on October 13, 2025, 08:01:45 AM »
Whew boy.  I imagine myself living as my mother and Auntie P lived.  Out and about.  Walking dogs, for Auntie P.
Shopping, for my mother, who created circular pivot marks, on her right shoes....all of them.  Such busy bees, doing what they loved, till their ends.

We've had this discussion, you and I.  Every time I go up stairs, I think about staying strong.  Every time I lift heavy groceries/things.....I commit, like it's a precious ability I need to preserve.

It IS, for me.

Lighter

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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025
« Last post by lighter on October 13, 2025, 07:54:46 AM »
Amber, my sister just had both eyes done.... cataract surgery went easy and 2 days apart. 

My surgeries were farther apart, but went well. 

Pro's, you'll appreciate....
1.  You'll get true blue back.  Wonderful, as I adore blues.
2.  Vision correction. I chose moni vision.  Far sighted in right eye. Near in left.  Neither is perfect, but will survive in apocalypse with ok, uncorrected, vision, imo. 

I will say, my brain despised having imperfect vision and mono vision for a good long while.  I admit....I demanded the doctor UNDO it, and wanted contact lenses BACK.  He demanded I try it out.  It's what I have now, and I acclimated...my brain acclimated....I need readers, but am ok without distance correction. I need it, but make do.

I should have gone back for a touch up, but couldn't make myself go.  You should avail yourself, as it will likely be offered.

My sister just enjoyed her touch up, and is so glad she did.

Will say this .....my brother had mono vision first, and was frustrated when operating heavy equipment.....it was an adjustment for him.  It would be, for you, also.

I suggest you ask your doc for Ativan, or something to calm your Nervous System before surgery, if allowed. 

I remember seeing things, during surgery.... which was ok, but.....not ideal.

That's happened before.  I think my body metabolizes drugs quickly?  It's a thing.  Docs and nurses very freaked out when I tell them things they did, during surgery.  If course, you'll be Uber loopy, perhaps difficult to wake/get moving, IF they increase the anaesthesia, IME.  It's a balance.

After surgery, maybe figure out how to center up toilet, before sitting.  You'll likely fall half-into the tub, or floor, many times, post op.....you won't be able to trust your instincts, so stop, line things up, then carefully place your weight.  Only a suggestion.

Will be ok.

Lighter



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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025
« Last post by sKePTiKal on October 13, 2025, 07:19:49 AM »
Then patience is the word of the week, Dr. G! Sometimes it's something simple. Sometimes it's not.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025
« Last post by Dr. Richard Grossman on October 12, 2025, 05:17:44 PM »
Hi Amber,

"Hmmm. Seems like things have settled down with the board. Fingers crossed!"

Still problems!  Working on it with the web host...

Take care,

Richard
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025
« Last post by Hopalong on October 11, 2025, 01:16:35 PM »
Wow, I can see it now: Women's Mountain with Amber the landlord.
B might lose his mind but boy, would it keep you busy!

There are lots of tiny home villages, from the video trails I follow. Very appealing, and once established, people seem so happy in them. I think it's a wonderful alternative.

Glad you're settling down about the surgery, and superb advice from Hol so your doctors are well informed. That's exactly the right thing to tell them, imo.

Hope you don't have long to wait, or meet happy cataract-liberated people in the meantime. You are safe. You will be safe during and after. They are helping. Good mantra, maybe. They are helping.

Wish I could.

hugs
Hops
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025
« Last post by sKePTiKal on October 11, 2025, 12:24:38 PM »
Hmmm. Seems like things have settled down with the board. Fingers crossed!  ;)

No real news to report - which is a good thing. Things are rocking right along. Surgeon consult is next week - then we'll see how long I wait for surgery date(s). My temp glasses should be in a couple weeks too. I should hear next week about lift install/delivery. Wood racks are almost full and plenty in reserve. I think I'm going to order some black plastic and cover the garden this fall. It's offend Holly's sensibilities - but she ain't faced with the weed problem I have.

Hops - remember way back when you were wishing there were tiny home retirement communities? Someone's done it; all women, too. It's on YT. I don't know if they have support services - handyman, medical, etc - but that seems pretty easy to organize & maintain. I s'pose the owners could pay a maintenance fee (like a condo) for that stuff.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025
« Last post by sKePTiKal on October 10, 2025, 09:52:50 AM »
<giggle>

Yeah, some of my vapors are moving on. I'm still terrified of the actual surgery, but Hol convinced me it's OK to mention, in general terms, that I'm a trauma survivor and have a strong fight reflex to the surgeon and anastheisologist. And I have B, who deals with this on an even more serious level.

I hope this posts! I'd tried my copy/paste trick a couple times but it's been getting frustrating since the site won't load most of the time or posts won't go through. It's not me; other sites are working fine.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025
« Last post by Hopalong on October 09, 2025, 05:26:44 PM »
Will TOTALLY bear with you, (((((Amber)))))).

Board wouldn't load for me either, earlier today, but seems to have gotten over its hiccoughs.

I've driven friends for their cataract procedures several times, same for my mother in her 80s, and without exception they've all come out twinkly eyed and thrilled with their new sharper, clearer vision.

I get you ID rumbling about it, but of the senses, this has to be your sense that is most precious and most worthy of full-on protection. That's all you're doing. You're protecting your eyes and yourself from creeping problems that just go away when they're dealt with.

Good for you. You'll be admiring B's ear hairs in no time, girl.

hugs,
Hops
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025
« Last post by sKePTiKal on October 08, 2025, 11:11:42 AM »
Board's not loading or posting replies for me, most of the time. Intermittently. FYI.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025
« Last post by sKePTiKal on October 08, 2025, 09:08:51 AM »
Well damn. Getting old SUCKS.

I went to a new eye doc yesterday because I've been having blurry vision. I've not had these glasses for a year yet. At that appt with that doc, I asked about the cataract situation he told me about the year before. He said "what cataracts?" and while initially these glasses sharpened my vision, it quickly deteriorated.

So I'm getting referred to a surgeon and will be having both eyes fixed sometime this winter. I have glasses ordered for a temporary "fix" until then. The new doc was pretty nice - but all business; thorough and at one point mentioned what I could see with his charts didn't make sense. (LOLOLOLOL welcome to my world.) When I asked just what the surgery entailed - what they do and how & why - he brought out a well illustrated book to explain and I could even see it with my eyes fully dilated. The cataract in one eye is "moderate" and the other worse than moderate. SIGH.

So old doc wouldn't have caught this before my eyes were so bad I couldn't drive myself there. Grrrrrrrrrr.

Because I had a heads up about this a couple years ago, it's not the fact that I have cataracts that bothers me. It's the idea of submitting my prized and valuable sensory inputs to an invasive procedure. To my instinct and lizard brain - this is an "attack" akin to what I survived a few lifetimes ago. And I react to fear by fighting... so I am going to HAVE to reveal this to the surgeon so he understands I might need more anasthesia (or a different kind) than normal and I might need to be restrained more than normal despite my wish to get this over with because the results are consistently good. I think I can get that across to him, but I'm still going to have to try to manage a part of myself that saved my life so long ago and that I have little consistent control over.

Hol will insist on driving and B will be with me. The lift is scheduled to be finished by then. And it'll be winter. I won't be going out that much anyway. Friend Deb had this done a couple years ago; couldn't drive for a month. So the timing is as good as it could be. I'm already scheduled for next year's exam with new doc.

And I'll have a pirate patch on either eye for a short time!  Arrrrgggghhh.

But I HAVE to be able to see to drive; know where my body is in space; and do all the things I normally do. Like cut B's hair & beard.

Y'all bear with me and my vapors, OK?
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