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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025
« Last post by lighter on June 30, 2025, 01:38:24 PM »
Watching castle and chateau renovations, on a budget, make me feel so much lighter about my projects, Amber.  I also absorb creative solutions, I might otherwise not have on board.

Lighter
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Animal Stories
« Last post by Hopalong on June 30, 2025, 12:54:44 PM »
And I dropped the thread AGAIN!

Well, my neighbor offered to let me place it under her deck where other bunnies have  lived, because there was no place in my yard where it'd be safe from Pup. I mostly knew it was dying when I carried it over there, and several hours later she told me it did and was "all sorted." That was kind of her.

Meanwhile, I had Abdalla thin out that perennial bed and cut it back, so it'll be a less sheltering place next year. I may even put some gravel in the depression where she makes her nests to discourage a repeat. Abdalla is a new helper I found; I like him very much. A refugee from Sudan 20 years ago, he's now a citizen with a FT job at the Univ in their environmental/landscaping etc department. He's doing this extra gigging either after work or on weekends. His wife is from the UAE, I believe -- she and the 3 kids are there for the summer. He lights up like a chandelier when he mentions his family; his English is excellent; he has a wonderful personality with a huge smile. Speaking of huge, he is that too.

The other fellow, from the Central African Republic, is still doing what he can and desperate for work, but his truck died and he really struggles to plan transportation. He came once in early spring and did more in two hours than most would do in five, but I worry for him/them, because he clearly really needs work, but can't get there.

My yard guy, Esteban, is from Mexico and a "permanent resident" here with green card, so I worry less about him than I do the others. And Edid, my cleaner, has been here 20 years but never went through the citizenship process, so is undocumented.

Two days ago I met another fellow, recent arrival from El Salvador, who is going to replace half my kitchen floor. He brought his lovely HS-junior sister in law to translate.

When I think about how hard these people work, how gracious and kind they are, and what they've been through to save their families' futures, I am awed. Grateful.

hugs
Hops
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025
« Last post by Hopalong on June 30, 2025, 12:39:26 PM »
Me too. UK cottages. Nice antidote to over-designed tiny houses (though I love the really individual ones) parked in stunning landscapes in NSW or NZ.

One of my favorites is a nerdy young gay guy in England who's lost both his parents and just moved to ab isolated rundown stone cottage in Ireland and is fixing it up, room by room and lots outdoors too.

I've enjoyed several women-in-wilderness ones too. Interesting. Never thought about how many times I'm drawn in by people living alone in wilderness or isolation, with only their camera for a friend, but talking to the world.

hugs
Hops
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025
« Last post by sKePTiKal on June 30, 2025, 08:25:15 AM »
Apparently, France requires an additional bit of info to be registered about a car, with the state. Not just VIN number. That's the gray card that is flustercating him. He's right; it should be simple to do online - but when the internet is intermittent, the webpages don't function correctly... it's easier to go do it in person. (Seems like overkill on the info - but it's funny what info people think is important.)

Brian is loved for his "Dad jokes" while working with Dan & Nick on the Chateau. He's an easy-going, cheerful, friendly guy. And anyone the puppies love that much, has to be OK - their "jerk-o-meter" is pretty accurate. I like the way he talks to his audience like we're right there - tells us to get in the car when he's heading for his little adventures or pack a bag and shows us places we wouldn't ordinarily see on the usual "tourist channels".

The Chaumont channel is also really positive - even when it seems their task today is impossible, monumentally tedious or difficult (like all the rope work off the turret to finish the slate roof & copper trim). I don't know what the arrangement is between Dan and his wife (the first videos are them renovating a French farmhouse) but his little boys are with him on weekends. Dan's living in a yurt on site, while the reno is going on.

I watch a lot of these renos, not so much the other chateaus - but UK cottages. It's my escape to other places, other problems (that I don't have to solve), and a way to just check out for awhile.
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025
« Last post by lighter on June 29, 2025, 08:07:20 AM »
He lost me at "talking to Sarah" about the gray card...."do'in me head in," but will go back once my patience bank replenishes.

I do love love love these shows, Amber😁

I, too, am pondering the shape and breadth of my life ...what I want more of, etc.  I'm surprised how tickled I am with the wedding stuff.

Lighter
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Day 697 cutting 6"x3"
glass
tile.🫩

Two days ago, there was much despair....mostly in my part.  Contractor less so.

Yesterday, we came close to finishing. At the end of the day, I cut tile for 2 niches/one with a shelf.  (After, I went to nearby movie theater for truffle Parmesan fries with garlic aoli and ketchup....no movie.  Just the frues.) Today I paint the flaked off paint tile edges, and select tile for balance of bathroom walls.  I can smell the barn.

Chances are I never consider glass tile again....well.  Maybe for a backsplash.  It's such slow cutting!!!!  And the touch up....and exact paint matching and waiting for it to dry😭

::happily running to admire it::.

If I didn't absolutely love it, I would have scraped off the first 2 feet, and done something else. I am not kidding😱

Ready to buy the toilet.

The faucet arrived.....sink's en route.

The exterior door, to outside shower, has 7/22 arrival date listed, but is likely to arrive sooner.

I'm excited about the vanity.  6 big drawers.  How nice will it be to never have to dig through another stuffed cabinet, in that bathroom, again?!?! Woo hoo!

Lighter


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Acceptance is a deeply healing/freeing balm, IME.  Sometimes more, or less, difficult to make peace with.

I suspect I just made it over a difficult hump, myself.  Will see, soon enough.

Lighter
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You're right, that's all so true. Thanks for the perpetual insight, Lighter.

She just wants a sounding board for the performance persona she's developed over many many years in order to cope. I get it. The eruptions are when, when challenged, her woundedness comes out. I don't need to fix it.

I just am not attaching as much to it any more.

hugs
Hops
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I really like the new age relaxation stuff, Hops.  It makes me want to meditate, stretch and focus.

Lovely smells, for me, typically run to pine, peppermint and, yes, coffee/roasting chickens.

Lighter
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 Hey, you can keep Poet for regular chats, but now you know.....
she doesn't do/can't do/won't do reciprocal relationships. Doesn't matter why, imo.

With realistic expectations in place.....speak to her as often as you like, or not at all.  Up to you, dear. 

I'm hopeful, new writer friend, leads to more writer friends, and fellowship.

Lighter
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