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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025
« Last post by sKePTiKal on March 12, 2025, 07:55:53 AM »Thanks! I think the cryptolepis is helping... maybe?
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Mindfulness and codependence thread
« Last post by lighter on March 11, 2025, 05:54:50 PM »There's a fine line between judging and using discernment. I was using discernment, and made peace with it.
Nuff said
Nuff said
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025
« Last post by lighter on March 11, 2025, 04:15:55 PM »That sucks, Amber. My oldest DD looked like a huge hive of bees hit her, in areas Tide washed laundry, made skin contact. My niece was visiting and uses Tide. Huge YIKES!
I use ZUM detergent, in various smelling formulas. Seems to work for us. No skin issues and laundry smells yummy.
I'm considering switching to those detergent sheets.....Arm and Hammer makes them, btw.
Hope you heal up soon.
Lighter
I use ZUM detergent, in various smelling formulas. Seems to work for us. No skin issues and laundry smells yummy.
I'm considering switching to those detergent sheets.....Arm and Hammer makes them, btw.
Hope you heal up soon.
Lighter
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Farm Journal - 2025
« Last post by sKePTiKal on March 11, 2025, 01:28:48 PM »OH LORDY!!
I started breaking out in a rash a couple weeks ago. Thought maybe it was bugs (5 cats in the house) so I washed all the bedding. Rash spread; constantly ITCHES to high heaven. I have a pretty good calendula cream, tried that. Tried almost all my various potions/creams... can't find my bottle of Aloe... but we have plenty of plants. Rash turned in hives...
so I suspected an allergy. But to what? I've used Tide Free & Gentle for over 20 years. I did some searching online and lo and behold the formula changed... and I started seeing fellow sufferers complaining of the same rash, from whatever is in the new formula. I tried benedryl; half a 25mg doesn't affect me but kinda "tones down" the itch. I took a whole pill at bedtime but was hungover all the next day.
Bought Arm & Hammer sensitive skin detergent; rewashed bedding and all the clothes I'd recently washed. NOT HELPING; maybe this detergent uses the same chemical? Next, I'm going to try Dr. Bronner's Sal Suds. Hol swears by it; mostly castile soap. B keeps threatening to take me to the ER, but all they'll do is give me a Rx for a steroid cream... sigh.
So, this morning I broke out the cryptolepis salve. The herbs are infused in olive oil/beeswax to make a vasoline like salve. Cryptolepis is a pretty powerful antibiotic herb; given how much of my skin is broke out, I'm only trying it on a couple places to experiment. Thinking I might have some auto-immune over-reaction to the original irritant... but that hasn't happened to me, since I was 12.
Also drinking my detox tea, trying to boost things INTERNALLY. Just in case.
Do me favor & send me non-itchy good thoughts!
I started breaking out in a rash a couple weeks ago. Thought maybe it was bugs (5 cats in the house) so I washed all the bedding. Rash spread; constantly ITCHES to high heaven. I have a pretty good calendula cream, tried that. Tried almost all my various potions/creams... can't find my bottle of Aloe... but we have plenty of plants. Rash turned in hives...
so I suspected an allergy. But to what? I've used Tide Free & Gentle for over 20 years. I did some searching online and lo and behold the formula changed... and I started seeing fellow sufferers complaining of the same rash, from whatever is in the new formula. I tried benedryl; half a 25mg doesn't affect me but kinda "tones down" the itch. I took a whole pill at bedtime but was hungover all the next day.
Bought Arm & Hammer sensitive skin detergent; rewashed bedding and all the clothes I'd recently washed. NOT HELPING; maybe this detergent uses the same chemical? Next, I'm going to try Dr. Bronner's Sal Suds. Hol swears by it; mostly castile soap. B keeps threatening to take me to the ER, but all they'll do is give me a Rx for a steroid cream... sigh.
So, this morning I broke out the cryptolepis salve. The herbs are infused in olive oil/beeswax to make a vasoline like salve. Cryptolepis is a pretty powerful antibiotic herb; given how much of my skin is broke out, I'm only trying it on a couple places to experiment. Thinking I might have some auto-immune over-reaction to the original irritant... but that hasn't happened to me, since I was 12.
Also drinking my detox tea, trying to boost things INTERNALLY. Just in case.
Do me favor & send me non-itchy good thoughts!
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Mindfulness and codependence thread
« Last post by lighter on March 10, 2025, 03:59:47 PM » I attended a wilderness healing seminar with Moss friend and her husband. It was sunny and warm, then windy enough to make every barefoot attendee question their morning choices. We were seated under a big tent......in the bur freez'in shade.
There were blankets and yoga mats., but most didn't avail themselves. Many people gave up their stoicism, and traipsed to the binkie pile, for the next 2 hours, while l looked at the snack table's hot water and tea selection....just to have something hot to drink would have been nice. I was just warm enough to remain stoic.
The "leader," giving the chat, was of Native Indian heritage.....he was telling a coyote, seeking, light to shadow story ...I missed it entirely, bc signing in with an iPad in the bright sun struggle.
The thing was entirely outdoors .....at a wilderness healing school with a 7 year program.....for students who were asked to bring friends. My Moss friends weren't students..... they'd met this group during a recent trip to South Africa. Good people. Good hearts, but the main guy was so extraverted. Won't say "charismatic" but could tell, he likes the word, if thinking about himself. Wow.....judgy much, Lighter? So judgy. I see that.
..I didn't like the way the guy answered every question with a question. I esp didn't like he did it to Moss Friend. I didn't like it when he said he could see all our energy, past, present and future and was trying to put his wisdom into terms our minds "could grasp."
How do you think it went, for me, when he asked the entire group of 35-40 people to state who they would be if there was no agenda or time? One by one.....he asked.....and would comment on what this new student or that 6th year student might say, before they answered....
annoyed. I was distinctly annoyed and annoyed at my judgement then annoyed I couldn't "make nice" for 2 minutes of chit chat at the end, when I asked if the safari vehicle broke down, or not, when, as it turns out, part of the group chose to walk back to the lodge......which required a guide, armed with a rifle, filled with 3" inch bullets and very specific instructions to follow, in order to stay alive, during the walk.
The speaker/teacher mentioned how the guide set them up for "needless worry" about potential danger, bc the cats likely weren't hungry....ummm.....he couldn't know that. Catching prey is hard in nature. A slow, chubby group of tourists seemed like easy prey, good for stuffing into trees IF a cat happened to NOT be hungry, imo.
I saw the wisdom in being alert, aware and ready to report sneaky shadows, bc the shadow would be smack in big cat hunting country. Nope, the leader disagreed and I couldn't muster up 1 "appropriate/make nice" response, so we broke eye contact and I walked to the car. I could tell, people don't often challenge, dissent or fail to fawn over this man. I've apparently lost the stomach for it.
Maybe for good.
There it is.
Maybe.
Lord, love a duck.
Who would you guys be, if no time or agenda, existed?
Lighter
There were blankets and yoga mats., but most didn't avail themselves. Many people gave up their stoicism, and traipsed to the binkie pile, for the next 2 hours, while l looked at the snack table's hot water and tea selection....just to have something hot to drink would have been nice. I was just warm enough to remain stoic.
The "leader," giving the chat, was of Native Indian heritage.....he was telling a coyote, seeking, light to shadow story ...I missed it entirely, bc signing in with an iPad in the bright sun struggle.
The thing was entirely outdoors .....at a wilderness healing school with a 7 year program.....for students who were asked to bring friends. My Moss friends weren't students..... they'd met this group during a recent trip to South Africa. Good people. Good hearts, but the main guy was so extraverted. Won't say "charismatic" but could tell, he likes the word, if thinking about himself. Wow.....judgy much, Lighter? So judgy. I see that.
..I didn't like the way the guy answered every question with a question. I esp didn't like he did it to Moss Friend. I didn't like it when he said he could see all our energy, past, present and future and was trying to put his wisdom into terms our minds "could grasp."
How do you think it went, for me, when he asked the entire group of 35-40 people to state who they would be if there was no agenda or time? One by one.....he asked.....and would comment on what this new student or that 6th year student might say, before they answered....
annoyed. I was distinctly annoyed and annoyed at my judgement then annoyed I couldn't "make nice" for 2 minutes of chit chat at the end, when I asked if the safari vehicle broke down, or not, when, as it turns out, part of the group chose to walk back to the lodge......which required a guide, armed with a rifle, filled with 3" inch bullets and very specific instructions to follow, in order to stay alive, during the walk.
The speaker/teacher mentioned how the guide set them up for "needless worry" about potential danger, bc the cats likely weren't hungry....ummm.....he couldn't know that. Catching prey is hard in nature. A slow, chubby group of tourists seemed like easy prey, good for stuffing into trees IF a cat happened to NOT be hungry, imo.
I saw the wisdom in being alert, aware and ready to report sneaky shadows, bc the shadow would be smack in big cat hunting country. Nope, the leader disagreed and I couldn't muster up 1 "appropriate/make nice" response, so we broke eye contact and I walked to the car. I could tell, people don't often challenge, dissent or fail to fawn over this man. I've apparently lost the stomach for it.
Maybe for good.
There it is.
Maybe.
Lord, love a duck.
Who would you guys be, if no time or agenda, existed?
Lighter
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: The island
« Last post by lighter on March 10, 2025, 01:28:25 PM »I can very close with past Cottage guests. Almost perfectly matched, but these last 3....
we're perfectly aligned to enjoy it all. Even the bumps.
The guy who lined it up, read the book about Hemingway and the island on my bookshelf. He brought a fly rod, hired a bonefish guide and sent fascinating pictures of his experience....what they caught, what they cooked .... everything, but diving, which was their main reason to visit.
On the day they arrived, after hours of travel snags, he said he aligned with my favorite saying...."If it's not ok, it's ok.". It was a telling beginning to their 8 day stay.
These guys focus on the joy.
He left a very short 5 star review, assuming while at the airport. With his permission, I used some of his pics and added info for future guests.
Lighter
we're perfectly aligned to enjoy it all. Even the bumps.
The guy who lined it up, read the book about Hemingway and the island on my bookshelf. He brought a fly rod, hired a bonefish guide and sent fascinating pictures of his experience....what they caught, what they cooked .... everything, but diving, which was their main reason to visit.
On the day they arrived, after hours of travel snags, he said he aligned with my favorite saying...."If it's not ok, it's ok.". It was a telling beginning to their 8 day stay.
These guys focus on the joy.
He left a very short 5 star review, assuming while at the airport. With his permission, I used some of his pics and added info for future guests.
Lighter
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: "Dr. Frank, Therapy App" to be performed at the 2025 Boston Theater Marathon
« Last post by lighter on March 10, 2025, 01:16:58 PM »Will have to plan ahead if it's not streaming after🐦
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: "Dr. Frank, Therapy App" to be performed at the 2025 Boston Theater Marathon
« Last post by Dr. Richard Grossman on March 10, 2025, 08:11:17 AM »Hi Lighter,
I don't know for sure whether the Boston Theater Marathon can be streamed after the performance date. But my guess is that it can't--one can only stream it on the day of performance. I'll let you know if I hear differently...
Thanks,
Richard
I don't know for sure whether the Boston Theater Marathon can be streamed after the performance date. But my guess is that it can't--one can only stream it on the day of performance. I'll let you know if I hear differently...
Thanks,
Richard
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: "Dr. Frank, Therapy App" to be performed at the 2025 Boston Theater Marathon
« Last post by lighter on March 08, 2025, 09:11:05 AM »Doc, can the show be streamed afterwards or is it only available live, to view?
Lighter
Lighter
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Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board / Re: Mickey 17
« Last post by lighter on March 08, 2025, 09:08:16 AM »The little critters reminded us of baby girl pug!!! You can imagine the buzz kill parts, for us, hands to mouths, horrified!