Hi Tupp:
I wrote a reply, but see it didn't make it on the thread.
::sigh:
In a nutshell, I think you're learning a new language....
it's unfamiliar.....
it's the language of asserting yourself, and enforcing healthy boundaries.
More than anything, I think the line breaker was practice for everyday life, and that you had to say something to him for yourself.
From where I sit, it's a shift in dynamics for your life.
You might be going over the confrontation again and again in your mind, but at least you're not regretting that you stood by silently and did nothing.
Sure, it feels awkward to stand up and say something.
It feels unnatural, but so does letting some pushy asshat get away with trouncing your boundaries.
The guy, or his wife, certainly could have uttered a small apology and ended the thing at any time. They didn't, and so you let them know.
::shrug::
They're broken, and can't do any better. This was about their problems this time. Not about yours, which I feel you addressed appropriately, btw.
IMO you're experiencing growth, forward movement, and deserving of applause, and a hug.
I give you both, my dear.
Well done. Keep it up; )
(((Tupp)))
Ah thanks, Lighter
I feel it was the right thing to do and that I handled it well enough. In the same situation again, I think the only thing I'd do differently would be to step in sooner - I had a feeling he was going to do what he did but didn't act on it. But yep, they were out of line - in more ways than one - and should expect someone to take them to task over it, as I'm sure they would if someone did the same to them. I think it just triggered lots of old stuff - being pushed aside like you don't matter, not being 'seen', not being heard, not being respected, having your reasonable request turned into something unreasonable that you are punished for asking or even thinking about - you know the drill
Thank you
