With my oldest N sister. I called her twice.
I Changed my phone number in June, so we've been no contact for about 4months. Until I broke it. Feel very bad.
Funny, I didn't tell my H or D. I just picked up the phone and called her. Didn't think, or wait it out, just did it so quick.
Her son answered, in the back ground I heard her say "who???" "seasons, my sister!!!" he said, "yes mom your sister."
She got on the phone, never asked what happened, why I changed my number etc.
Nothing has changed. Complete N behavior. I was to play my role and listen, with attention, empathy, excitement etc. She wasn't mad, almost delighted her supply came to visit. WIERD
Second call was interesting. Like I mentioned before we didn't say anything to eachother like, are you mad, why didn't you call me etc. And I didn't offer anything,
I did not apologize. I normally would of but I at least had the strength not cave and say those words.
I told my H and D several days later. I felt embarrassed that I slipped.
Second call was interesting.
She told me two stories of about HER and her huge capacity of forgiveness. I knew this was for me, her audience. Maybe saying in between the lines she forgives me even though I didn't say it.
Her stories..............
#1
Seasons the nicest thing happened to me. Chrissy called me (her daughter in another state LC) and told me someone told her that they think they might of said something mean to me at a family gathering and felt terrible! Then she says, "I'm not going to tell you who it isn't family but someone you know." O.K. I'm thinking.
Her daughter says "Mom I told this person if ANYONE CAN FORGIVE SOMEONE IT'S MY "MOTHER!!!"
She tells me how her daughter knows her so well. And it made her feel special. And of course to tell them she forgives them.
It made her day, "quote."
#2
N sister tells me she is at the supermarket waiting in line, 12 Items or Less.
The man behind her says you have more than 12 Items in your cart!!!!!!!!!! She told me I know I did, but didn't he see my cane in the cart. Entitled without asking.
He then passes her in line.
She said her carrage went to the side on two wheels and she fell into the magazine rack!
Then when he is in front of her he calls her a F......ing Bi***! She said he swore at me before he did this then swore more when he got in front of her.
Sister says
"I put my hands on my hips and said not now but tonight when you put your head down to go to sleep I want you to think about what you just did to me, I could of fell to the ground and broken all my bones don't you see my cane?"
Then she says she ignored him and started to put her groceries on the conveyor belt ignoring his stares. She says the register girl is in shock. My sister says so sorry you had to see that.
Nsister says he doesn't leave. He stands there with his bag and looks at her, solemnly. He puts his hands together and says "I am so sorry, I can't believe I just did that."
"Please tell me you forgive me." She says his hands are in a praying position.
N sister says she puts both hands up in the air and says "I FORGIVE YOU."
He still doesn't leave she says, again he says "I NEED TO HEAR YOU TELL ME AGAIN THAT YOU TRULY FORGIVE ME."
She again tells me she puts her HANDS UP IN THE AIR AND SAYS IIIIII FORRRRRGIVVVVVE YOUUUUUU." That's how she pronounced it.
Nsister says he bent his head and said "Thank You."
Now I'm at the register and the girl can't believe what she's seeing and says this is for you and gives my sister $6 and change. My N sister says for what? The man left his change for YOU.
So do you believe I made six bucks out of it.
And again made her feel special that she was able to touch someone. She says it's another one for my book. She always talks about how things that happen to her never happen to anyone else and that she needs to write a book and that I am to tell everyone it's the truth. She has said this for decades.
The same woman who makes up new names forherself to strangers she meets out and about to make her feel special and unique, now a liar and a nut case.
Did this happen? Well I know for sure people have yelled at her in stores before. Do I think he almost knocked her to the ground, hmmmmm "NO" my N sister would of had the manager and police there in a second. I believe she took this stories and added some drama and added her HOLLINESS to it.
I believe as silly as this sounds it......... was for me. I think in her head she pretends I have said I am sorry and have asked for repentance.
Now I know she is a wacko. I've learned my lesson fast. I just felt a need for someone to talk to, like a mom or sister and lost my ever liven mind thinking I had one.
Just yesterday I received a card from her. Thought you all would appreciate this, I didn't know Hallmark had a Narcissist section.
On the cover says...............
"OPEN THIS CARD
ONLY
IF YOU LOVE
ME"
Inside says, THANKS!
LOVE YOU TOO.
Enclosed were a few pictures of her new granddaughter
and three of her and the outside of her house decorated for halloween. spooky ....
On the bright side I didn't give her my number. Back to square one.
Their was nothing earth shattering here to share, just basic nisms.
Thanks, I just needed to get this gunk off of me. Shredding it here is the only place that is safe. seasons
