I bumped up this thread, because I got in contact with Miss "Maybe your mom should buy you a vibrator." I told her everything about what I felt.
- I felt like I was being judged for being a very sexual teenager...like she was trying to mold me into being someone "pure." The last thing a client wants is their therapist to act like a mom.
- I felt HUMILIATED for being told to walk in a sex store with my mom. Heck, I would consider it borderline sexual abuse for a mom taking her minor daughter to buy a vibrator.
-I felt angry and sad that a professional didn't understand the big picture. A lot of abuse survivors don't realize that their behaviors (promiscuity, over-eating) are related to abuse. It's the profesionals that point it out, but this lady didn't connect the dots.
The good news is is that she replied back saying "I'm sorry you felt this way and it must have been hard for you. But, please, don't think that I could ever judge a client. You were being very brave to e-mail me."
The "bad news" is that she missed the indicators of sexual abuse, which I figured anyway. I sort of feel that she's responding nicely just to "look good." She said she would look in her notes to answer my queries, but she hasn't responded in a few weeks.
At least I got an answer from her.