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« Reply #150 on: April 15, 2019, 12:15:14 PM »
I'm better now, but this was scary brutal in that bronchial ways we're so inflamed, and gooy....hard to speak and breath at times. 

Scary.

I will note your suggestions.  Big believer in zinc, and xylitol nose spray here.  I haven't had the huge nasal infection stuff since taking xylitol spray to prevent secondary infection during viral infection.  Last sinus infection was in 2014, and it was so bad and long and gross.

Highly recommend the x clear nose spray.
Will take echinatia, vitamin C, zinc and xylitol spray..... I'm more of an Ocean nose spray over netti pot, bc netti feels like drowning and gave me swimmers ear.  I have really odd ears.

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« Reply #151 on: April 16, 2019, 08:35:58 PM »
I hear you! Not everybody can do the Neti. It really does WASH things out, when one can, though.

So glad you got through it. I do get a bronchial involvement every third cold or so and it's just horrible.

Bounce on back...

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« Reply #152 on: April 17, 2019, 10:59:29 PM »
Thanks, Hops.  I feel normal today, but still weak.... not recovered yet.

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« Reply #153 on: April 18, 2019, 02:21:09 AM »
I hope you can rest, Lighter, and take time to recover.  I sometimes think recovery is the most difficult part of being ill, particularly for busy bees who are used to rushing around getting a lot done.  Those major flare ups are scary - I think it shows us we're human and we can get sick and no-one likes that.  Sending you wellness wishes, I hope you're feeling a lot better very soon.

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« Reply #154 on: April 21, 2019, 12:38:26 PM »
I'm feeling much better now, but can tell not up to full steam.  Balance still a bit off, and I sound like a cheerleader who smokes.

The flu's been bad this year, particularly on the elderly.

I think clean ocean air would be wonderful.  Enjoy it for me, Tupp: )

And Happy Easter!

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« Reply #155 on: April 22, 2019, 07:07:04 PM »
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I sound like a cheerleader who smokes.

A poet! Another poet amongst us!

 :D :D :D

So glad you're on the mend, Lighter.

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« Reply #156 on: May 02, 2019, 03:28:47 PM »
This day I've detached from my girls.... and looked at myself. 

It's easier to breath, and think.

Accepting they have their own paths, and I have mine... the only one I can really impact, is a relief.

I might rest a bit, then finish this fing paperwork.  Just focusing on STUFF is easier when I allow my head to empty all the things I can't control, IME.

Zen is an elusive thing, IME.

::nodding::

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« Reply #157 on: May 02, 2019, 03:35:28 PM »
This day I've detached from my girls.... and looked at myself. 

It's easier to breath, and think.

Accepting they have their own paths, and I have mine... the only one I can really impact, is a relief.

I might rest a bit, then finish this fing paperwork.  Just focusing on STUFF is easier when I allow my head to empty all the things I can't control, IME.

Zen is an elusive thing, IME.

::nodding::

Lighter

Ooh, Lighter, that is a big step!  Standing back and watching them flourish - lovely picture in my head now.  And now another of you setting fire to paperwork - wouldn't that be amazing :)  Lol.  Zen is a great and enviable state to be in.  Emptying the head is much harder than it sounds (for me, anyway).  I hope the breathing carries on being easy :) xx

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« Reply #158 on: May 02, 2019, 08:29:34 PM »
Well, there's some flourishing, and some floundering for the girls right now.  For all of us, but we're working on ourselves. 

I have to move the truck full of legal paperwork currently stored in the house.  It has to go.... very bad juju. 

I'm just skipping the overwhelmed part, and letting it be.  I'll get to it, and I'll handle it.  I always do. 

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« Reply #159 on: May 03, 2019, 12:00:36 PM »
Well, there's some flourishing, and some floundering for the girls right now.  For all of us, but we're working on ourselves. 

I have to move the truck full of legal paperwork currently stored in the house.  It has to go.... very bad juju. 

I'm just skipping the overwhelmed part, and letting it be.  I'll get to it, and I'll handle it.  I always do. 

Lighter: )

Are you literally getting rid of it all, Lighter, or shifting it somewhere else?  I agree, it adds a bad air to the home.  My sitting room is essentially an office with a sofa in it rather than a lounge.  There is a large bookcase full of files and boxes of papers.  There are two laptops, an external hard drive, a printer/scanner/photocopier and then all the usual things you need to go with that - paper, envelopes, pens and pencils, a box of wires that I don't really know what to do with but I don't want to throw them away in case they do attach to something and I've just forgotten.  There are lists on the wall of things to do, things to check and various things that link together in different groups depending on which aspect of son's care we are battling over at the present time.  I'm getting on with some stuff now that needs to be done but isn't urgent.  I tend to leave the non-urgent stuff until it becomes urgent, because I resent the time I have to spend on it and so put it off until I can't leave it any longer.  So I'm trying to get a bit ahead of the game now and make myself do an hour a day on the non-urgent bits - if I stick to it by the time the next lot of complaints come back I should be up to date and only have them to deal with.  I also need to start organising assessments for the autumn and should start doing that now as people get booked up well in advance.  But I long for the day when this is all done, all behind us and I can scan everything, condense the whole file to one key or disk or cloud or whatever is used at that point and then burn the bloody lot.  God, I will take pleasure in burning that lot!

Flourishing and floundering is part of the ebb and flow, and it's the part I find difficult.  I think not having anything to steady against when I was younger means the floundering part was difficult for me - it felt very scary.  But we've given our kids stronger foundations so they will flounder but get through it and then get to the flourishing part again :)

Let us know what you do with all the paperwork!  You might give me some ideas :) Lol xx

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« Reply #160 on: May 03, 2019, 07:36:41 PM »
Tupp:  I don't know what will happen to the paperwork.  I know I'll start pulling out boxes, SEE something that's meaningful to me.... a document, an ORDER, an Agreement, or e mail, and that will set me on a task.  I feel as though I'll be pulling specific things to SHOW my girls when and if they have questions.  An organized file, and then I'll see what comes next.  There will be emotions, and there will be reactions, and there will be ADD tangents from one box to another.  Maybe something positive will come of it.  Not sure, but they have to leave the home.  I could bag them, and put them under the house, I suppose, but isn't that still bad juju in our space?

I'm looking forward to the day we can be free of all this paper, Tupp. Free in every way we can be free.

About early trauma, Tupp....
The girls have been referred to a neurofeedback specialist.  Maybe research it a bit, and see if it might help you, bc you deserve relief from yours too.  It changes the brain.... the mid brain.  It can be soothed, and trained, and brought back into balance.  At least, that's what I've been told, and I want to believe that.

 IF ONLY I COULD SCAN all these papers and be able to find stuff after.  It's huge, and involved, and makes me feel out of control... not being able to put my hands ON things.... papers I'm familiar with when and if I need them again.  That's tough.  I always dreamed of having it on computer, and at my fingertips.  I don't suppose that's possible.  The scanner I purchased, to get through the custody trial, died.  What.  A.  Mess.  That was, but it got the job done.  I'm amazed at all the evidence evil people make and leave behind.  Amazed that they operate like it doesn't exist.  Operating as though their truth trumps all, and sometimes we think it does, but that's not true.  Never has been.  They're still guilty, and evil, and everyone who can see, is willing to see, can see it. 

I really think I need this evidence though.  The idea of not having it..... is unthinkable.  I'm not sure what I'll do with it.  So, back to pulling the really important things... the must have things... then burning the rest.  That sounds about right, honestly.  It feels right too. Will see.

Oh this beautiful day.... I've blown yard stuff around, sucked it up, watered it, and tried to plan gravel on the path where it's muddy...... ordered 72sf of TRUEGRID ECO 1" deep permeable pavers, which is like ordering a frame to hold gravel in place on walkways, driveways, in yards, and  slopes, etc.  Gravel won't get swept away, or blown into leaves and moss.  I can put larger stones along sides to hide the black framework.... I feel pretty good about it. 

If you can't picture it... think of a milk crate, and a black plant tray having a baby.  Sort of.

Youngest dd and I picked up a few rocks from a construction site.  I love construction sites.  There was one in my old State that was PERFECT.  I really miss it.

Bought three white Encore Azaleas from the grocery store, and it makes me happy to think about placement.  I'm thinking about pulling the purple and red azalea bushes, bc they're old, spindly, and bright red and purple. I'll try to save them, and plant them out back, but not sure how successful that'll be.

I'm trying to focus on me.... considering a retreat, but not sure what kind that would be. 

I should meditate more,  but there's resistance.  Not sure what that's about, but will pay attention to it.

I wish there was some kind of business we could build on all this...... experience, Tupp.  Wouldn't that be something?

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« Reply #161 on: May 04, 2019, 06:35:16 AM »
Yep, get it with the paperwork.  I think in our situation I will get to a point where I just don't need to have it around anymore, largely because I am writing it all up into a book/journal/maybe legal action I'm not sure? and it will get to a stage where all the paperwork we have will simply be too old to be useful to anyone, focusing, as it does, on son's early years and his childhood.  So I think we will eventually get to a point where I can safely scan 'just in case' and burn the lot.  But I get completely what you say about needing to hang on to some of it, at least, but also not wanting it in the house.

Is there a document storage place you can store the papers?  Or even a company that will scan it all for you so that you know you have it backed up should there be a problem with the storage place and it all gets ruined?  If it has to stay in the house (I understand that worry of letting it out of your sight - it's so many years of slog and hard work the thought of it vanishing and having to do it again - oh my days!) then, once you've sorted and got it pared down as much as possible, could you turn it into a sort of good juju monument to how bloody hard you've all worked to get through this and how well you've done despite those f**kers doing everything they could to stop you.  So maybe the boxes can be filed somewhere out of site, or if they need to stay somewhere they can be seen the boxes can be pretty ones, or covered with a nice cloth, or behind a nice curtain or something.  And then in front of that, or next to it, or wherever it works, make a beautiful space.  Plants, cushions, candles, photos of you and girls smiling, happy, having fun.  A pic of you with a 'f**k you' look on your face, framed copies of the girls achievements, school reports, qualifications and so on, and yours, too.  Pics of that beautiful garden you're making, the beach house you've so lovingly put back together - just some sort of visual space that pushes out the bad juju and replaces it with all your good, loving, bloody hard work and shining examples of everything you've done.  I've got little reminders all over my house of nice things son and I have done over the years - paintings, drawings, photographs, things he's made, sea shells we've picked up from beach walks, plants that friends gave me at difficult times or to celebrate something - do you know what I mean?  Just things that can prick your memory and replace all the horrible memories that the paperwork conjures up with memories of the nice stuff that you did even though you had to fight your way through that shit storm.  I think sometimes we need visual reminders of how much we've done and overcome, it's not always enough to just have it in our heads.  The bad stuff always seems to take up more space there; I think we need to overload it with good things and box it up in our minds as well as in our homes xx
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« Reply #162 on: May 04, 2019, 12:10:28 PM »
Tupp.
Everything you wr o te here (sorry, borrowed laptop with independent space bar) really inspired me. You described the heart of my                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 
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« Reply #163 on: May 14, 2019, 10:37:35 AM »
Youngest DD has her neurofeedback assessment today.  Should take about 4 hours.

She seems to be invested in it.

There were 15 pages to fill out, beforehand.

It's funny this office has been 2 miles from my house for 5 years. 

I guess things happen in their own time. 

Oldest DD will go later this week.   

Had first T session with oldest DD last night, and it went beautifully. 

DD loved the T, and the T is really great.

Company left this morning, and it was a fulfilling visit.

Yesterday I worked in the yard... the moss is uber happy with all the rain.  Did some tree trimming, and sucker removal... just having glorious cool breezy spring weather right now.   

Will have a house full soon for oldest DD's graduation! Woo hoo!

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« Reply #164 on: May 14, 2019, 11:30:29 AM »
That all sounds lovely, Lighter, it's always funny when you find someone useful living nearby.  It's great that it's all going so well.  Sounds busy in a good way :) xx