Thanks, ((((Tupp))))!
He's on board with finding our own place near downtown, so I'm very grateful for that. I may be heist on me own petard, though, because we've blundered into a barely-advertised one with few details but we've seen it (outside), walked around it, and both just went whomp, in love.
Upsides: 1901 absolutely adorable, not a Mcmansion, literally just blocks from the Mall (restaurants, kulchah, library, concerts, parks, civic life). Historic --M is doing mental cartwheels over that and its original state (which he'd love to renovate) and we both are nuts about a brick stable behind it on the alley, which could become guest/studio/study/all three (it's large) space. Corner lot, endless potential space wise.
Downsides: Biggest one which is BIG, and it tells you something about the charm of the place that we're still so into it. It's on a VERY busy street. Actually the same one I live at the peaceful, quiet, no-traffic end of. But...up the road it's a direct artery out of downtown, a major street from there to the highway (I'm waaaaay past the highway with no through traffic, river below, etc). And the traffic there is relentless, and thus...noisy. Early morning and evenings won't be bad, but most of the day, with bedlam at rush hour, it's real. Daunting. Yet, and yet....
Other one is just that we've left messages for the anonymous owner with no response. It's not being marketed on regular listings and we're heading for the courthouse next week to try to find out the name and some way to write them a letter. So it's an iffy kinda thing. We may talk ourselves out of it (traffic) but the fantasizing has been fun.
The noise thing, we've talked about. I would plant a double row of thick hedge and do triple-glazed front and side windows. Beyond that, the truth is I don't spend a lot of time outdoors unless I'm taking a walk, so with sound insulation I'd be fine.
The yard can be made very pretty and we'd get help for that. I've faced that I'm a lazy, unmotivated gardener at this point, but M can afford the help and I'd love being "supervisor" for that.
Long story shorter, I think it's unlikely but we are enjoying looking together, and there's no urgency.
Other stuff that's happening is that we've stepped forward and have a mutual assumption about marriage and he does keep proposing. I will say Yes, but there are things I'd need resolved before taking the leap:
--we have bought a house
--we have agreed on downsizing process
That's pretty much it. I do dread leaving here but dread life alone forever more, so I've made my decision. M has been SO happy lately since we got intimacy underway (in our geezer fashion) that there's just no more hesitation.
More later...neighbor coming.
xxxxoooo
Hops