Boy was that close. I had almost given up on life until somebody e'd me Dr. Grossmans summary of Voicelessness/Narcissism. I lived a frustrated life until this time - trying to figure out who I was and what my problems were. There it was in 3 paragraphs - my mother exactly. I admit that I even displayed some of this behavior (to a much less evil degree) into my 30's however I was able to admit that "something' was wrong with me and I kept myself in check most times. What a relief to understand it completely now. As is expected with this affliction, she does not accept any of it. My siblings and I (who also have no relationship with her) are rebuilding ourselves with the added aspect of her complete denial. That is the amazing thing about N, is that in the face of complete and total evidence/examples/facts - she still lies and denies. Shouldn't the fact that her children (in their 30's and 40's) live in fear of her and want only distance from her, be enough to concede responsibilty? A Narcissist of her degree lives only for the purpose of inflating herself and she continues to promote to whomever will listen that she has a close relationship with all of her kids and that she just can't seem to understand what our problems are - must be related to the behavior of her 3rd and 4th's husband's treatment of us, she claims. After a year of therapy I have managed to steo out of my old self and discover the real me. There is hope for everybody. If I can do it anybody can. Good luck to all - you deserve to be happy.
