Help Please

[Plucky]

It is hard to see what no one else seems to see. Especially when people say, "I know you don't like your mother," or things like that. That was one of the first things my sister's then-fiance said. And I had NEVER said that... in spite of how mean she had been. So either my sister or mother told people that.

Hi Beth,
I am just wondering,  how did this person say it?  Was it mean, or incredulous, or matter-of-fact, or prying, or even sympathising?
Is there any way it could almost have been supportive, like an invitation to commiserate?
Plucky

[gratitude28]

Really good point, Plucky. I can't quite remember. My sister's husband and I don't have the greatest relationship... I tolerate him... he is a person who feels he is always right and doesn't need to follow rules like other people (like he came here to visit and wanted me to rent him dive equipment when he has no certification. He wanted to drive here even though you aren't allowed to by law, etc). I know it was at my sisters and I think my sister said, "Rob wonders why you don't like Mom," or something like that. I can't quite remember... I was taken by surprise. It was said as if it were a well-known fact; at least that was how it came across to me.

[Plucky]

I see. well, at least she didn't say, "Rob is wondering why you don't like him!"   
Plucky