I called this post "denial" because of the way he always comes up with these brilliant excuses for himself as to why it was actually beneficial in some way to the family that he was out...such as he was at the library researching mortgages or how to start a new business (ha!) or at a real estate meeting (he is a construction worker with 3 mos. experience and it is his third job in a year)!?!? Or talking to his lawyer about custody issues, and somehow I always suspect it is a lie and he was actually goofing off with his friends, or at a bar or restaurant drinking because I examin his bank statement each month (we have separate accounts--thank god) and there are always daily charges with his debit card at bars and restaurants with tabs in excess of $40 sometimes, and it seems as though he almost dialy withdraws money from an ATM as well. $20, $30, $80!!!!
No wonder he can't pay any bills. Oh, but it's all gas money for his 45 minute commute, about which he is bitterly resentful, even though he chose to work there AFTER we moved into our home. AAACK!!
Properity