"Oh Generous One" - My mother rewards me with material things when I have been feeding her narcissistic supply, or as prevention not to "leave" her. For this I am percieved as the favorite child in the family. The gifts are not things I ask for, or necessarily need. They are things she gives me that she wants me to have, or that she thinks will look good in my home. i.e.- you can't really decorate your home without me, look how generous I am, your home is a reflection of me, don't I have good taste....
then she will casually mention to friends and other famiy members words to the effect that she and I have similar tastes and that I am the only one that has been able to continue the legacy of her artistic ability, but of course (I will never be as artistic as SHE).
"Selective Giver" She will also buy me clothing here and there that (that I really like) when we are out shopping - this is to keep me around and so that I will continue putting up with her abuse. There is always a catch though. She will say "I would like to buy you a pair of shoes today" and then if she doesn't like the pair I choose, its "oh, THOSE don't look good on you I think you should get THESE."
