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[guest101]

This site is really helpful -- at least it was to me.  Check out the link at the bottom if you have time.

Here is some excerpts to give you an idea what it's about:


"The need to feel respected runs deep . . .
Feeling respected means feeling that you are being treated as a valuable human being . . .
Feeling disrespected is about being treated as somebody who doesn't matter  (for ex.  :shrug:)  or who matters less than the other person in the conversation .  . .
Every conversation takes place in a climate. Some climates are negative . . . For example, conversations in climates based on suspicion or distrust have little chance of producing a worthwhile outcome; conversations that take place in positive, supportive climates - like those based on mutuality and trust - have a much higher chance of success.

The biggest influence over the climate is the degree of respect present in the conversation. The moment someone in a conversation feels disrespected, the communication is in danger.


For example, Sebastian, a research scientist, finds it hard to value people who're not as smart as he is, so he finds dialogue with many people difficult since they often feel patronised by his manner. Simone has a similar problem. She is scornful of elderly people, who she sees as ‘slow and boring'. This attitude comes across very clearly in her conversations with anyone over 50, where it is perceived as being deeply disrespectful." ~ excerpt frm The Number One Skill.com website

Read the full text here:  http://www.numberoneskill.com/number1skill/dialogics/No1Art7.html

[guest101]

ooooh, I just noticed there's a "talk test" option here.  You can invite a loved one and relative to take it with you.  Then I guess you can see how well  both (or more) communicate.  that's really helpful.  I wouldn't invite an N, though -- they'd just get angry at the results and take it out on you.

[guest101]

Here's what the Talk Test Invitation looks like (you've got to invite at least three people to be able to take the test.)

I'd be grateful if you could take part in a survey called the Talk Test to help me find out more about my characteristics as a face-to-face communicator.  It will take you about 10-15 minutes to complete a questionnaire on the web. (There's a link to it at the end of this email.)

The purpose of the Talk Test  is to help me discover what I'm like to have a conversation with.  For example, how well do I listen? How clearly do I explain my ideas? Am I open-minded or dogmatic? Do my conversations sort things out or make them worse?

 I have asked a number of people to complete the Talk Test survey in order for me to acquire an all-round picture of my communication style.

The results of the Talk Test will be presented to me in the form of a confidential feedback report on the web. Individual responses will remain anonymous at all times.  I will see only the average of scores.

As well as asking you to assess my communication characteristics on a numerical scale, the Talk Test also provides you with the chance to submit written comments. Please take this opportunity to tell me which traits of my communication style you appreciate — and which traits you think could I could benefit from changing.

I'm sure you'll find the questionnaire fascinating to complete. Afterwards, you may decide that you also want to take the Talk Test and discover what other people think of you as a two-way communicator.

Thanks for your cooperation.