Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?

[BonesMS]

Today's "Dear Abby":

http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20130113

[BonesMS]

That first letter in today's "Dear Abby" concerns me:

http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20130114

Everything the writer is describing sounds like neglect to me....................

[BonesMS]

Today's "Annie's Mailbox":

http://www.creators.com/advice/annies-mailbox/living-with-slobs.html

[BonesMS]

A friend of mine gave me some money as a belated Christmas present and said to buy whatever I want with it.  I went ahead and bought some crochet books, a couple of crochet hooks, and some roving to spin into yarn.  I had enough left over to purchase a K-cup carousel to organize my coffee.

Why am I feeling guilty?

[Hopalong]

Because you forget that you are a good person who is perfectly
deserving of the kindness of being given a gift...

Just let it in. (It might make you cry, since it's because of past
abuse that you have to work hard to recognize present love.)

But this is good practice! And it feels better and better the more
you learn to be kind and loving to yourself and not push it away.

xo
Hops

[Twoapenny]

A friend of mine gave me some money as a belated Christmas present and said to buy whatever I want with it.  I went ahead and bought some crochet books, a couple of crochet hooks, and some roving to spin into yarn.  I had enough left over to purchase a K-cup carousel to organize my coffee.

Why am I feeling guilty?

I agree with everything Hopsie said, Bones.  I still feel guilty about spending money on myself.  I have no social life at all, and decided that this year I am going to go out once a month, even if it's just for a coffee.  It will cost a lot less than I spend on healthcare products and practitioners and I suspect do me as much good.  But I find it incredibly difficult to allow myself money JUST TO HAVE A GOOD TIME.  It's like there has to be a purpose behind it that everyone would agree is okay.  It's hard to let those old feelings go completely.  You deserve this little treat.  Your friend obviously thinks enough of you to want you to treat yourself.  I say good for her and good for you, too!

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Bonesie))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

[BonesMS]

Because you forget that you are a good person who is perfectly
deserving of the kindness of being given a gift...

Just let it in. (It might make you cry, since it's because of past
abuse that you have to work hard to recognize present love.)

But this is good practice! And it feels better and better the more
you learn to be kind and loving to yourself and not push it away.

xo
Hops

Thanks, Hops.

It's easier said than done while I continue practicing one day at a time.

[BonesMS]

A friend of mine gave me some money as a belated Christmas present and said to buy whatever I want with it.  I went ahead and bought some crochet books, a couple of crochet hooks, and some roving to spin into yarn.  I had enough left over to purchase a K-cup carousel to organize my coffee.

Why am I feeling guilty?

I agree with everything Hopsie said, Bones.  I still feel guilty about spending money on myself.  I have no social life at all, and decided that this year I am going to go out once a month, even if it's just for a coffee.  It will cost a lot less than I spend on healthcare products and practitioners and I suspect do me as much good.  But I find it incredibly difficult to allow myself money JUST TO HAVE A GOOD TIME.  It's like there has to be a purpose behind it that everyone would agree is okay.  It's hard to let those old feelings go completely.  You deserve this little treat.  Your friend obviously thinks enough of you to want you to treat yourself.  I say good for her and good for you, too!

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Bonesie))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Thanks, ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((Tupp)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

It's hard to make those old tapes stop playing.  Know what I mean?

[BonesMS]

Today's "Annie's Mailbox":

http://www.creators.com/advice/annies-mailbox/paranoid-hubby.html

[BonesMS]

Today's "Dear Abby":

http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20130115

[BonesMS]

Just checking in................

[BonesMS]

Today's "Dear Abby":

http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20130117

Still thinking about that first letter.....................................................

[BonesMS]

Today's "Annie's Mailbox":

http://www.creators.com/advice/annies-mailbox/friendly-with-the-ex.html

[BonesMS]

In today's "Dear Prudence":

http://www.slate.com/articles/life/dear_prudence/2013/01/dear_prudence_my_brother_and_i_kiss_and_cuddle.html

If I were "Who's Rite", I would keep my kid AWAY FROM THAT CRAZY BITCH!!!!!!

[Hopalong]

Hi ((((Bones))) --
Thought you might appreciate this tribute:
http://www.cnn.com/2013/01/17/showbiz/dear-abby-pauline-phillips-obit/index.html?hpt=hp_t1

The commenters are really touching, and make me appreciate YOU.

love to you,
Hops