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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #4770 on: August 11, 2013, 08:23:43 PM »
Feeling aggravated as a second crown has fallen out while I was brushing my teeth.  Seeing the dentist tomorrow to get them put back in and find out WHY they keep falling out!
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« Reply #4771 on: August 12, 2013, 05:50:30 AM »
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That last letter has me shaking my head.  The one who "left the gift" in such a TACKY way sounds like an N!   :P
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« Reply #4773 on: August 12, 2013, 07:38:21 PM »
Feeling aggravated as a second crown has fallen out while I was brushing my teeth.  Seeing the dentist tomorrow to get them put back in and find out WHY they keep falling out!

More aggravation!  NOW I have to find a new dentist!  I hope to find one closer to home that can work with retirees on a fixed income.
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« Reply #4777 on: August 13, 2013, 07:09:52 AM »
Feeling aggravated as a second crown has fallen out while I was brushing my teeth.  Seeing the dentist tomorrow to get them put back in and find out WHY they keep falling out!

More aggravation!  NOW I have to find a new dentist!  I hope to find one closer to home that can work with retirees on a fixed income.

Conversation in dentist's office yesterday:

Staff person:  Your new treatment plan will cost about $2,000.

Me:  What?!?  What EXACTLY is in this new "treatment plan"?  I look at the details and noticed that one of the expensive items that they want to charge me for is finishing the implant that my insurance and I have ALREADY PAID FOR!  I point this out and get told:

Staff person:  Oh, no, no, no!  You're wrong!  You have to pay since your insurance won't pay to have it finished.

Me:  That does NOT make any sense!  You're telling me that my insurance paid to have the procedure started but WON'T pay to have it completed?  Then the dentist walks in as I'm asking this question.

Dentist:  Well, that's just the way insurance companies are.

Me:  I am a retiree depending on a FIXED income.  I'm dealing with the aftermath of flood damage and a hot water heater that has to be replaced.  My pension CANNOT stretch any further and I CANNOT pay $2,000 up front for a long list of procedures that hasn't been done yet!

Staff person:  Put it on a credit card.

Me:  You're NOT listening.  This is a debt that I CANNOT afford!  I have NO way to pay this!  I am TAPPED OUT!  My pension can NO longer stretch!

Staff person:  But it's only $50.00 a month.

Me:  You're NOT listening.  This is a debt that I CANNOT afford!  My pension CANNOT be stretched to pay that!  I CANNOT pay a $2,000 debt with money that I do NOT have!

Dentist:  Well, come back when you can pay for this.

By this point, I'm smelling a rat with double-dipping which is why I suspect my insurance company is balking at paying AGAIN for the implant that has already been paid for.  I can understand prioritizing the list, choosing the item that is most important, and focusing on getting that ONE item taken care of.  But a $2,000 package with a LONG list of items, to be paid for up front, BEFORE they will even look at a cracked tooth, or a crown that needs to be replaced....that just feels obscene.  With my other health issues going on, I could find myself in a position of being unable to finish the procedures....the dentist gets paid for work that was NEVER done...and I get left holding the bag without any expectation of a refund for work that was NEVER done?  I think it's time to look for a new dentist, closer to home, that is willing to  work with senior citizens on a fixed income.    :P
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« Reply #4778 on: August 13, 2013, 08:37:37 AM »
Just got an e-mail from one of the genealogy forums that I'm subscribed to and this dude is really starting to pluck my LAST nerve!  I've already told him, at least THREE times that we are NOT related!  None of my ancestors, in a specific branch, has ever lived in his ancestral states because they were SLAVE states and the ancestors of mine that he continues to focus on are NOT white!!!  He responds back that he wants to collect those names anyway!

NO, Dude, you are NOT collecting ME as if I'm another object to be possessed!  My ancestors of color were treated as objects of possession because of the color of their skin!  You are NOT going to repeat history with my ancestors NOR me!

Sheesh!!!!   :P
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« Reply #4779 on: August 13, 2013, 10:22:21 AM »
Hey Bones.
Check out every dental school in your area and get on their waiting lists...it really will
pay off down the line.

You get detailed and even complex procedures done at a MAJOR discount by
just-about-to-graduate new dentists who're being watched like hawks by their
professors/instructors because if they don't do a great job on you, they don't get
to enter practice!

And, they've just learned all the newest techniques, too. My dentist is involved with
the university's dental program (teaches it and brings the students into his own clinic
to practice) and he's the best I've ever had.

xo
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #4780 on: August 13, 2013, 10:28:10 AM »
Hey Bones.
Check out every dental school in your area and get on their waiting lists...it really will
pay off down the line.

You get detailed and even complex procedures done at a MAJOR discount by
just-about-to-graduate new dentists who're being watched like hawks by their
professors/instructors because if they don't do a great job on you, they don't get
to enter practice!

And, they've just learned all the newest techniques, too. My dentist is involved with
the university's dental program (teaches it and brings the students into his own clinic
to practice) and he's the best I've ever had.

xo
Hops

Thanks, Hops.

Unfortunately, the only dental school that I know of is SEVERAL miles away and I have NO way of getting there without reliable transportation.
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Re: Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
« Reply #4781 on: August 13, 2013, 11:10:55 AM »
Just got an e-mail from one of the genealogy forums that I'm subscribed to and this dude is really starting to pluck my LAST nerve!  I've already told him, at least THREE times that we are NOT related!  None of my ancestors, in a specific branch, has ever lived in his ancestral states because they were SLAVE states and the ancestors of mine that he continues to focus on are NOT white!!!  He responds back that he wants to collect those names anyway!

NO, Dude, you are NOT collecting ME as if I'm another object to be possessed!  My ancestors of color were treated as objects of possession because of the color of their skin!  You are NOT going to repeat history with my ancestors NOR me!

Sheesh!!!!   :P

Aw Bonesie, with this and the dental problem I can only imagine that you are getting frustrated!  Imagining a lovely snuggly soft blanket that you can wrap yourself up in and keep at bay the people who are not behaving at their best!  I hope this chap stops asking questions of you now and hope something gets sorted out for you with the dental work.  We have similar problems in the UK; basically you can get them checked for free but most work has to be paid for and it's so pricey I know people that have ended up pulling their own teeth out because they can't pay the bill.  Shocking state of affairs.  I hope you can figure out what's going on here and change dentists if need be xx

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« Reply #4782 on: August 13, 2013, 11:16:34 AM »
Sorry to hear of the transportation hassle, Bones.

I wonder if the cost of a cab might still be nowhere NEAR how much you'd save, though?

xo
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« Reply #4783 on: August 13, 2013, 11:19:15 AM »
Just got an e-mail from one of the genealogy forums that I'm subscribed to and this dude is really starting to pluck my LAST nerve!  I've already told him, at least THREE times that we are NOT related!  None of my ancestors, in a specific branch, has ever lived in his ancestral states because they were SLAVE states and the ancestors of mine that he continues to focus on are NOT white!!!  He responds back that he wants to collect those names anyway!

NO, Dude, you are NOT collecting ME as if I'm another object to be possessed!  My ancestors of color were treated as objects of possession because of the color of their skin!  You are NOT going to repeat history with my ancestors NOR me!

Sheesh!!!!   :P

Aw Bonesie, with this and the dental problem I can only imagine that you are getting frustrated!  Imagining a lovely snuggly soft blanket that you can wrap yourself up in and keep at bay the people who are not behaving at their best!  I hope this chap stops asking questions of you now and hope something gets sorted out for you with the dental work.  We have similar problems in the UK; basically you can get them checked for free but most work has to be paid for and it's so pricey I know people that have ended up pulling their own teeth out because they can't pay the bill.  Shocking state of affairs.  I hope you can figure out what's going on here and change dentists if need be xx

Thanks, (((((((((((Tupp)))))))))))))))).

I hope I can figure out something soon.
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« Reply #4784 on: August 13, 2013, 11:21:30 AM »
Sorry to hear of the transportation hassle, Bones.

I wonder if the cost of a cab might still be nowhere NEAR how much you'd save, though?

xo
Hops

The cost of the cab is also financially out of my reach.  Frustration all the way around.
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