Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?

[BonesMS]

http://www.creators.com/advice/annies-mailbox/daredevil-girlfriend-drives-her-guy-nuts.html

Hey, she's 65...she's having FUN!!!  You are NOT her father, owner, or keeper!  She does NOT live with you full time and she is NOT spending YOUR money!  Back off, butt out, shut up!

[BonesMS]

http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20140205

[BonesMS]

http://taniaannmarshall.wordpress.com/2013/03/27/flying-under-the-radar-girls-and-women-with-aspergers-syndrome-2/

http://www.tonyattwood.com.au/index.php/about-aspergers/girls-and-women-who-have-aspergers

*Nodding head vigorously*

[BonesMS]

http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20140206

I can see two sides to this coin.

[BonesMS]

http://www.creators.com/advice/annies-mailbox/cavorting-with-paid-escorts-aka-the-last-straw.html

[BonesMS]

http://www.slate.com/articles/life/dear_prudence/2014/02/dear_prudence_my_son_s_secret_biological_father_wants_in_his_life.html

Sheesh.

[BonesMS]

I'm in a state of shock right now.  One of my friends, from a club that I'm in, has been declared brain-dead after being in a house fire this morning.  She had been battling cancer for quite a while and then had a stroke on top of that.  I had prepared myself for the eventuality of her dying either from the cancer and/or the stroke but THIS?!?!?!?

This person died on January 16th and our club has been holding off on doing anything until we hear about funeral/memorial arrangements from her brother.  The last we heard from him, he tells us that there is a "turf battle" going on between two jurisdictions and that because she wasn't a "murder victim", she's "not that important".

It is now February 6th and we STILL HAVE NOT HEARD ANOTHER WORD from this relative...no obituary, NO NOTHING!  I don't know about you, but I can't help but get suspicious.  We, in the club, have been aware that her FOO is VERY DYSFUNCTIONAL and she had been the scapegoat for YEARS while her brother was the GOLDEN CHILD.  (Sound familiar?)  When she was alive, and in failing health, several of her friends asked the brother if he could check in on her once in a while since he lives in the area.  He couldn't be bothered because it was "too inconvenient".  (Another familiar refrain that I've dealt with in other situations.)  He didn't give a damn while she was alive so I won't be surprised that he still doesn't give a damn now that she's dead and wouldn't give a damn about her friends, who acted more like family than he could be bothered to do.  I don't feel that it is right to do that to her remains.  She, at least, deserves a decent burial.

[BonesMS]

http://www.creators.com/advice/dear-margo/its-definitely-not-you-buddy.html

[BonesMS]

http://www.creators.com/advice/at-work-lindsey-novak/employees-should-take-jobs-offered-in-layoff-c89f35020a.html

[BonesMS]

http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20140207

[Hopalong]

That's a very sad story, Bones.

Sad as it is, though, she is at peace, flown far away, no fear, no pain, no hurt...
their neglect can't touch her now.

Hops

[BonesMS]

That's a very sad story, Bones.

Sad as it is, though, she is at peace, flown far away, no fear, no pain, no hurt...
their neglect can't touch her now.

Hops

Yeah........I know.

[BonesMS]

http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/?uc_full_date=20140208

[BonesMS]

http://www.creators.com/advice/annies-mailbox/care-for-the-nasty.html

This family dysfunction sounds familiar.

[BonesMS]

http://www.creators.com/advice/annies-mailbox/lulu-spoiled-lemon.html