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STOP IT ALREADY!
« on: June 11, 2008, 08:56:43 PM »
Sorry to delete but this is too overwhelming for me right now, I'm too new to this and can't deal with this....

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Re: STOP IT ALREADY!
« Reply #1 on: June 11, 2008, 09:19:08 PM »


Here stands the real  " Voice of Reason "


I genuinely respect your courage of conviction, Oops

to speak 'The Truth.


Respectfully yours,

Love, Leah

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Re: STOP IT ALREADY!
« Reply #2 on: June 12, 2008, 01:50:43 AM »
Another breath of fresh air.  Nice to see good words wisdom being shared.  Welcome OOPS.  Nogadge

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Re: STOP IT ALREADY!
« Reply #3 on: June 12, 2008, 09:36:05 AM »
I agree... I always though "healing" sites should be about healing and provide a safe therapy like environment.  I wouldn't share my pain or experiences here in its current state as it all seems quite hostile and dangerous.  It seems dysfunctional, like my home life.  I'm not able to post happy stories of recovery and healing, but I enjoyed this place better when I saw people who did.  It gave me inspiration, it reminded me where I needed to be headed, and it gave me a goal. 

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Re: STOP IT ALREADY!
« Reply #4 on: June 12, 2008, 09:39:05 AM »


I agree with you wholeheartedly, Darren

as is my experience and thoughts of membership here on what I thought was to be a Healing board

for Voicelessness and Emotional Survival.


Love, Leah
« Last Edit: June 12, 2008, 09:54:18 AM by LeahsRainbow »
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Re: STOP IT ALREADY!
« Reply #5 on: June 12, 2008, 09:49:06 AM »





The only important opinion of our own opinion of our selves!

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Re: STOP IT ALREADY!
« Reply #6 on: June 15, 2008, 12:53:33 AM »
Thank you for caring.  Nogadge

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Re: STOP IT ALREADY!
« Reply #7 on: June 15, 2008, 06:53:36 AM »


What CONFLICT really is all about!     Yes, STOP IT ALREADY lest we destroy one another.       Love to ALL    Leah x


Conflict is a state of opposition, disagreement or incompatibility between two or more people or groups of people.

Conflict as taught for graduate and professional work in conflict resolution commonly has the definition: “when two or more parties, with perceived incompatible goals, seek to undermine each other’s goal-seeking capability”.

One should not confuse the distinction between the presence and absence of conflict with the difference between competition and co-operation.

In competitive situations, the two or more parties each have mutually inconsistent goals, so that when either party tries to reach their goal it will undermine the attempts of the other to reach theirs. Therefore, competitive situations will by their nature cause conflict.

However, conflict can also occur in cooperative situations, in which two or more parties have consistent goals, because the manner in which one party tries to reach their goal can still undermine the other.

A clash of interests, values, actions or directions often sparks a conflict.

Conflicts refer to the existence of that clash.


Psychologically, a conflict exists when the reduction of one motivating stimulus involves an increase in another, so that a new adjustment is demanded. The word is applicable from the instant that the clash occurs. Even when we say that there is a potential conflict we are implying that there is already a conflict of direction even though a clash may not yet have occurred.

Stress and conflict are a normal part of life, and healthy behaviour involves the ability to cope and adapt.


Psychologists make a distinction between   --  behaviour that successfully defends and copes  --  and behaviour that fails to adapt and resolve conflict.

« Last Edit: June 15, 2008, 10:04:43 AM by LeahsRainbow »
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Re: STOP IT ALREADY!
« Reply #8 on: June 15, 2008, 02:00:57 PM »
Dear Oops:  Oh, I remember something like this back in 2004.  I was a Newbie.  I logged on and there was a squirmish similar to this only the players were different.  I think I posted something like, HEY YOU GUYS, COME ON!!  STOP THIS INSANITY.......

Well, they pretty much ignored me, the fight continued and several people stormed off. 

This is a dynamic I have seen rear it's ugly head several times on the board over the years.  Unfortunately it is easier to fight with someone when you do not have to look at them face to face............anonymity helps with assertiveness.  Why do you think drivers engage in road rage?  I doubt if they would do it in the mall walking......

So even though I agree with you, STOP IT!!  It probably won't happen..............

Kelly

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Re: STOP IT ALREADY!
« Reply #9 on: June 15, 2008, 02:12:13 PM »

Why do you think drivers engage in road rage?  I doubt if they would do it in the mall walking......


Gosh, Kelly

Because I feel that with your open honesty - you have expressed, I think, and actually, I do feel -- the key to the issue of concern.

Personally, all told, I only have 12 months worth of active experience here on the board.

Love, Leah
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Re: STOP IT ALREADY!
« Reply #10 on: June 15, 2008, 02:15:09 PM »
Leah:  Are you saying that you agree with me?  That it is the fact that we REALLY do not know each other so it makes it easier to say what we want to say??
Kelly

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Re: STOP IT ALREADY!
« Reply #11 on: June 15, 2008, 02:19:44 PM »


Hi Kelly,

What I am agreeing with is that this place is evidently used sometimes, by those of whom in all honesty, would not get away with speaking to, or treating someone, as they do.

Legalities and none.

Personally, I have forgiven myself for being naive.

Love,

Leah
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Re: STOP IT ALREADY!
« Reply #12 on: June 15, 2008, 02:24:10 PM »
Yes, you are right.  And sometimes when people get involved in road rage, it comes back to haunt them.  There was a time in Omaha when a couple of drivers were playing cat and dog up L street.  One honked.  The other flipped off.  In and out of traffic.  So they get to a stoplight and the one gets out of his car, goes over to the other one and shoots him dead.  Obviously THAT got out of control.  We must be careful how much annimosity builds here.  You know?  I would bet that if the people who hate each other here on the board met each other in real life and used their real names and didn't realize they were the same people, they would get along fine in 3D land!
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Re: STOP IT ALREADY!
« Reply #13 on: June 15, 2008, 02:27:15 PM »


Well, Kelly, personally speaking, I don't have any animosity here, instead, I feel sad to see it, and experience it.

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Re: STOP IT ALREADY!
« Reply #14 on: June 15, 2008, 02:29:16 PM »

hi Leah,

I'm not sure I understood your short response.
Love
Izzy



Hi Kelly,

What I am agreeing with is that this place is evidently used sometimes, by those of whom in all honesty, would not get away with speaking to, or treating someone, as they do their acquaintances in real  life ?????????????

Legalities and none. Meaning?????? Law suits or none??????

love,

Leah


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