I've been married to a narcissist for over 44 years. Of course at the
time, I didn't even know what a narcissist was. I just thought his horrible
behavior was something he grew up with because he was just like his
mother. The constant criticism, humilation and temper tandrems. You
just never knew what kind of mood he'd be in when he got home. The
kids and I ran around the house making sure everything was perfect.
It took time to realize that he'd find something wrong if he was in a
bad mood. Occasions that were supposed to be joyful were ruined
because he'd have to punish somebody.
I'm amazed when I read the posts from adult children of narcissist.
I can't imagine how hard their childhood must have been. But at least,
they are aware of the problem and are trying their best to deal with it.
They know it's not them that has the problem. My husband didn't
talk to his mother for over 20 years but when they reunited, he spent
the rest of her life making it up to her. It's just so sad that all he ever
wanted was for her to love him and not realizing she just wasn't
capable of loving.
I'm leaving now because I can no longer take the verbal abuse. It's
almost as if we speak different languages. Over the years it hasn't
gotten better only worse. Nothing makes him happy except getting
his own way and that doesn't last for very long.
