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Meh:
Shame has some association with child neglect. Basically many people here have expressed that they experienced some form of child neglect as a result of the parental "personality disorder", or meanness, or hatred, or abuse, or humiliation (shame creating), or brain-washing, or lying, devaluation of the child by the parents, causing the child to feel insignificant.

Yeah I'm an adult, not a kid any longer, there is however a permanent socialization process of being shamed and knowing shame, feeling shameful.

I just "googled" it, so some results:

http://www.springerlink.com/content/v45266w752678249/
http://www.springerlink.com/content/w6r28172x881k275/
http://www.psychsight.com/ar-shame.html
http://www.zentactics.com/shame.html
http://primal-page.com/childabu.htm
http://cmx.sagepub.com/content/10/4/364.short
http://cmx.sagepub.com/content/10/4/350.short
http://cmx.sagepub.com/content/10/4/377.short
http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/cpp.331/abstract
http://www.childwelfare.gov/can/impact/longterm/
http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1467-8624.1996.tb01832.x/abstract



Child Neglect/ Sexual abuse/Shame/Narcissism---sort of all goes together

JustKathy:
There are some interesting articles here. Thanks for sharing.

Meh:
Yr Welcome, Well, I just randomly selected a few, probably at some level I need to go inward and try to understand it a little bit more.

I'm not sure what the process is for that. I mean the inner-child stuff has an internal-work type process. Shame must also have it's system of getting to know it better.

So I guess I sort of put it here to remind myself to work on it. Also figured it was relevant for other people.

Meh:
http://drjanebolton.wordpress.com/2009/02/06/shame-activators/
http://www.forhealing.org/shame.html-------Excessive shame believes that he/she is defective or should not exist
http://www.healthyplace.com/relationships/joy2meu/heart-break-of-romantic-relationship-facet-3/

My prior experiences with my inner child were mostly positive. I didn't encounter the concept of shame very much.

So how does a child relate to the concept of shame anyways....the child just experiences as made to feel that "she is bad'?

JustKathy:
Talk about coincidence. I was just checking the news on CNN, and came across this clip:

http://www.cnn.com/video/?hpt=hp_t3#/video/living/2012/04/13/natpkg-orig-ideas-brene-brown.cnn

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