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Dr. Richard Grossman:
Hi everybody,

I finally figured out why my therapists were all lousy.  A study by Ma-Kellams and Blascovich entitled “The Ironic Effect of Financial Incentives on Empathic Accuracy,” (Journal of Experimental Social Psychology--forthcoming) was covered by the Boston Globe (Sept. 23, 2012).  Quoting the Globe’s Kevin Lewis:

“People who were offered money as a direct reward for empathic performance instead exhibited less of it.  They were less able to infer the emotions of another person and described themselves in less relational terms.  The authors of the study conclude that ‘money causes individuals to focus more on self-related concerns and less on other-related concerns.’”

This week, I’m going to provide my services for free, and the week after, I’m going to ask my patients if I did a better job.  I may never charge again.

Richard

Izzy_*now*:
Wow! I can relate, because as a 'patient' all I could think of was money I had to pay and not my other problems, while wondering if the therapist was wondering if my cheque would bounce and want all his words back!

Then I'd go home and think, 'What a waste of our time!"

Thanks
Izzy

sKePTiKal:
During T, I had what's probably a common thought among patients...

wow. I'm so pathetic I have to pay someone to pretend to be my friend and pretend to care about me.
But, I was so miserable at that point... I was willing to ignore the cynicism, for the simple experience of emotional caring.

KayZee:

--- Quote ---wow. I'm so pathetic I have to pay someone to pretend to be my friend and pretend to care about me.
--- End quote ---

I've felt like that too.  And the empathy I found in therapy seemed to highlight the lack of it in my natural born family.  Made me feel like "if only I were good enough" I wouldn't have to pay for this... In retrospect, I see that meant a therapist's office was exactly where I needed to be.

Anyway, I loved my therapist.  And didn't often feel like she was putting her financial priorities ahead of the kind of support and treatment she felt I needed.  I totally respected her need to support herself and family and make a paycheck... If T's don't take care of themselves and their needs, how are they going to take care of the patients and people who rely on them?

Kay x

lighter:
I didn't find lack of empathy to be the cause for my T's failure, which wasn't their fault, IMO.

There simply weren't any answers available to give, and they felt just as lousy as I did every time I left their office, IMO.  It was bad for me and for them, IMO.

I will say that thousands of dollars in payment may be partially responsible for a recent situation.  The T was supposed to be an impartial court officer, but instead turned into a biased advocate for the party paying their fee.  I'm not saying the fee was strictly responsible for what happened, but it had something to do with it, IMO.

I can see payment adversely affecting treatment in many different ways, and I suppose it depends on the T. 

Lighter

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