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The therapist's dilemma

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Hopalong:
And...if the state provided therapy, iow mental health services, as part of universal health care?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Community_mental_health_service

The state could pay therapists as it did physicians, and thus the subliminal transactional empathy-obstacle between individual Ts and individual clients would be removed.

What's unfair to Ts (and to people who need therapy) is the class system. Those who have good health insurance or higher incomes can afford private therapists.

I think access to caring, skilled therapists should not be a middle-class+ privilege.

Hops

sKePTiKal:
I should clarify my statement, Kay --

in my case, I'd learned from my NM that, that kind of "caring" was the velvet glove that masked the iron fist about to knock me down. I seriously distrusted empathy or sympathy or caring directed at me. I was adept at pushing people away from me - and then, eventually wondering why I was so alone. LOL...

Attachment issues - a person gets twisted up, inside-out, upside-down, backwards through the rabbit hole. A kind of permanent "opposite day".

In some strange way, I trusted the T relationship more -- because I was paying her; perhaps because of my attachment issues. I trusted the caring/transfer finally, deeply enough and long enough, enough times... that I could walk on and carry the feeling with me - touch it when I needed it. We'd finally finished polishing those grooves and reinforcing those neural connections in my brain.

rosencrantz:
Interesting - I was always more confident and competent as a volunteer than as an employee.  The money transaction of being an employee filled me full of dread - or rather, the thought of being paid to be in charge.  I was completely incapable of going after a job I was best suited for - too senior, paid too much.  And yet, I could fulfil a similar role as a volunteer any day!  I now run my own business supporting lots of other people, helping them get over their fears and do a great job.  It earns me good money too - and them! But then the business started to falter.  One day I knew why - ye Gods, I'm only worth about HALF that amount!! LOL  Not funny really.  It has taken years to get my confidence back.  

And yes - my therapist is crap.  I'm sure it's because she's being paid by me because we really took a shine to each other before we formalised the deal, the 'shine' is  why I chose her!! But the need to meet my needs is killing the deal.

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