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Update from.....Izzy
lighter:
I really hope this is over soon for you, Izz.
Lighter
Izzy_*now*:
Thanks lighter,
---- and now it nearly is. Lawyer came yesterday with 2 cheques, I signed the Waiver, and will have another cheque when their accounting is in order.
Knowing he was coming, I 'prepared myself for action", not to gush all over a Narcissistic slime ball, but to lay it on the line, and forced myself into a frame of mind that every 'mess' that happened that screwed me up, I was prepared to mention. I was ½ friendly, ½ not and no smiling, no crying.
It seems that no matter what, the cheques are not broken down (itemized) so how do I know for what I am being reimbursed? He "has no memory" so cannot quote to me!
I awakened this morning with $thousand$ in the drawer and not even thrilled because all it takes is an N to spoil the moment.
I was sure to mention to him that the tide changed the day he said to me, on the phone, "I don't give a shi*t!" . He was taken aback but certainly remembered when I quoted the circumstances, and then I said that from that point on I knew I would never have another say in what transpired. It wasn't my way. It was his, while I awaited news that never came, and watched for anything that would rid Karla from my life. There is a story there, and NOW, I will ask her. (We never discussed it while he was still working on my case! They were members of the same Business club.)
I am so far behind in my work, pain, stiff neck, headaches, Karla's surgery, car out of gas, battery likely dead now, places to go, snow to shovel, grass to cut, yada yada
xx
Izzy
Hopalong:
Post-settlement blues, Izz?
But was it a good settlement, do you think, even if not itemized?
(If I understand, it was the insurance company's lawyer that delivered the checks?)
I am very glad it's over, Izz. I hope soon the most important things are also in line...mainly KARLA.
Keep us posted.
Rest up.
You've been running on adrenalin for soooo long.
Kudos and I hope some good feelings will come along soon, when you've had a chance to catch your breath.
love to you,
Hops
lighter:
Izz:
Certainly you're a woman of numbers and you had a ballpark figure of what your bottom line was.
I have to assume the checks were somewhere in the "fair" range, or you wouldn't have accepted the deal.
Congrats, and I'm hoping everything (tremors, pain) calms down with all the legal troubles over.
(((Izz)))
You're an amazing survivor.
Lighter
Izzy_*now*:
Hi Hops and Lighter, and anyone else who becomes "unknowingly screwed up" when trauma strikes.
Karla was here today and told me of my lawyer’s Narcissistic behaviour at this Breakfast Club that both attended. (I am making her a gift of one mortgage "pay-down", $35,000,000, right off the bat (She told me what a slime ball he had been.) so that whatever befalls me with her being my POA, medical and financial, and whatever hardships I might put her through, I know that she deserves that, and more----she is also in my Will, like the daughter I never had!
Being he was always a slime ball, makes me more happy that I assumed the mood I had to deal with him. It was difficult but then came easier as I went on with my "routine".
As he sat down at the table, he shoved the Waiver right under my nose, and I casually shoved it off to the side, like a scrap of paper. No way he would leave without my signature and I made that appear so insignificant, and "said my Say". He was never once nasty or Nish except for blowing his horn on the settlement. I could see the charm turned on and other such signs, but "was not myself" to him, and I said, that I am not the same person who was run down 4 years ago. When I finally reached for the Waiver to read, he offered to explain it to me. I said "No need! I understand. I am just looking to see if that 'certain phrase" has been removed!"
Then I said, "I look at these cheques and what do they mean? Nothing! When I will be in pain, blah-blah, the rest of my life, and you know the hard times that were given me by the Specialists who thought I was malingering." He finally admitted that the Insurance Company had been very cruel in cutting my funding so quickly that I had to pay for things myself..... and I pointed out that nothing was agreed upon for future therapy or house help...because everyone was, as he said, seeing me in a chair but not in action. (Karla calls herself my 'life companion", and will be here on pouring rainy days, snow days, for odd little errands that are out of whack for me, and therapy).
No post-settlement blues, Hops, just a calmness that is been with me for a few days....that tells me that I was so stressed out-- the adrenalin and all that must have crept up on me slowly because of all the drugs at the beginning. I have slept like a baby, no nightmares, no tremors (was zzzzzzzzzzzzzzz-ing away when Karla arrived at 1:30 p.m.)
Another friend, Janice, is coming to vacuum under my bed....I shouldn't have looked but had dropped something but put the bedside light on the floor to shine under then on my tummy on the bed I looked under and nearly croaked from the dust. (There are places I know of but never see. That was supposed to be one. One learns to live that way!)
Another $5,000.00 or whatever, still coming, as they are working on the figures, and I said that if I worked for him the figures would already be known. He prides himself on being the only person who knows what is going on. Hoity-toity!
Xx
Izz
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