I was rooting through my song lyrics and changing the format from the older PC to the newer one and found this. I wonder if it came from in here. Does anyone remember?
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Some people have walls that block them from being truly intimate or present in another's life. When those walls are encountered by the other person, and there is no desire or inclination, on their part. to understand it's cause or origin, the only choice is to close communication.
It is how one can effectively and callously render another voiceless.
When there is no desire to try to understand because the quest is too uncomfortable, those who are closed off have a tendency to lash out or push the other person away. Sometimes, sadly, permanently.
What has happened is that the person requesting "entry" has brushed up against an old scar, one that is still sensitive and the tragedy is that the choice is to protect the scar by inflicting wounds on the other person, rendering the other effectively silenced.
Incredibly hurtful, callous and careless behavior.
It takes immense courage to open yourself up, however small, to be honest about feelings.
To be rebuffed or silenced, rebuked, cast aside - now that is voicelessness.
How horrible and terrible! To say "ouch" and not be heard. To be accused of pushing and wanting more than is available when the truth is the other is not able to give and unwilling to try.
Forcing someone who is not an N or abusive, who is trying to communicate to end communication by demand and giving that person no choice to accept it is ABUSIVE in and of itself.
I would add that you cannot relate to someone who cannot hear you when you are in pain. It's actually a gift if they run away from you.
