N-mom called after years of NC and invited me and my family out to dinner with the family. Most of my biological family are all N's except one brother who's coming for a visit with his fiancee. I really want to see my brother and his fiancee but don't want to be subjected to n-mom and siblings. The last time I talked to her was right before my son's graduation five years ago we hadn't spoken in years but she acted like there was nothing wrong and wanted to go. When I told her my husband would drop off the tickets for graduation she tried to get me to say I didn't want her there...I didn't take the bait. I had her on speaker phone and my husband was home. She called him and left a pathetic message saying I told her she couldn't come and he should not support any of my decisions because I was very, very sick! She cried and screamed that it was her grandson and by god she was going! I calmly called her back and told her she had been caught in another lie and my husband would drop off the tickets. He showed up with my daughter, she didn't want to let them in but my husband acted neutral and convinced her to let them in but never discussed what happened. After all that she never showed up for the graduation. I never told my brother about it. She told my brother she's trying to mend fences before the wedding, I know she's just trying to suck me back in or make me look bad for not coming. I called him and explained that I am standing my ground on this and want nothing to do with any of them. He was understanding and wants to make a special trip over to see me. I feel so bad for putting him in the middle and I'm not sure how I'll get through the wedding with 4 N's.
