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Trying to stay NC, they won't stop stalking me!

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fraidycat:
Kathy I went through the consequences of NC too it's not easy. Hop's has a point, they still have a grip on you if you let them... don't let them.  If they see it they will lunge at you. Indifference as an attitude towards them (or the thought of them) might help...I don't care what you do it doesn't affect me! I'm not saying don't protect yourself, you should. Just move forward, its the only way they will see that they don't matter any more. When my family came at me I pushed forward and became more bold, spoke up more. I contacted mutual friends that they thought they turned against me to show that I wasn't afraid of them. They backed off. Your situation is far worse but you can handle it. The truth scares them away, move forward and protect yourself always! Best of luck Kathy!

JustKathy:
You guys are right, ignoring them is the best thing to do, though it was much easier when all it was were cards and phone calls that I didn't have to answer. Hunting me down and trespassing onto my property takes it to another level. I do own rental properties, so my name showing up on the title in a public records search doesn't mean that I live here. Hypothetically speaking, there could be tenants in this house who would call the cops or simply shoot an intruder. I know if I were renting a home, and someone left a mysterious package in my garage, I'd be terrified and would call 911. They're playing a very stupid and very dangerous game.

I guess the one thing I can hope for (and it sounds terrible to say this) is that NM really is nearing the end. If she dies, there will be an initial bombardment of guilt letters from Co-Father, but it will eventually subside. She's the puppet master, and without her, I don't think he'll be able to manage on his own or take care of himself since she's been calling the shots for 53 years. Someone will have to assume her role and tell him what to do, where to go, when to eat. It won't be me, though. Since my poor brainwashed sister got talked into buying a house a few doors down from them, she can do it. Or he can go into assisted living where he will be placed on a schedule and told what to do. I'm sure he'd respond quite well to having Nurse Ratched barking orders at him. It's what he's accustomed to.

Some days I'm sad that I no longer give a rat's ass about what becomes of Co-F. I went from worshiping the ground he walked on, to defending his bad behavior, to trying to accept that he was not the person I thought he was, to finally accepting it and taking on the attitude of ..... "To hell with you. Have a nice life. Bugger off. Go die alone."  I have to keep telling myself that what goes around comes around. He brought this on himself. End of story. :(

Hopalong:
Kathy, just want to send you some love.

I am so sorry you're going through all this.

I believe it might be true, too, that you are actually safe.

But I so understand why you don't feel that way.

Sending safe, peace, Kathy-at-home-in-her-piece-of-the-Unvierse vibes....
you deserve to OCCUPY YOUR SPACE.

I hope they never get past your bulwarks.
Your boundaries are good. Driveway visitations are pathetic.

You are not.

love to you,
Hops

JustKathy:
Thank you so much Hops.

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