Voicelessness and Emotional Survival > Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board
Had a row
Twoapenny:
Just needing to get this off my chest somewhere safe :)
Had a day out with my son today, lovely day, place we've been to many times and always really enjoy ourselves. Shortly before we were going to leave a man pushed his son in front of mine in a queue for a ride and my son missed his turn. I pointed out to the man what he'd just done and that my son had now missed his go and he shrugged his shoulders and turned away. This made me very angry.
I spoke to the man about this later (when he was alone) and said I thought he was setting a dreadful example to his son by pushing him into behaviour like that. The man's wife came over and had a real go at me, saying that I was aggressive, verbally attacking them, following them round, ruining their day out and that I'd humiliated all the people around me when I'd spoken to her husband. When I pointed out that the least he should have done was apologise she ignored that and just repeated everything she'd said before.
It was horrible, humiliating, embarrassing and a very unpleasant way to end the day. She threatened to get an official to sort me out and told me to stop following them and harassing them. Her husband had disappeared without saying a word before I'd even finished my first sentence.
I felt physically sick, was shaking and felt like crying.
What I thought about on the way home was that I could have just said nothing at all, or I could have walked away when she started her tirade. But I feel that what they did was wrong and I think I should have said something.
I was polite, level toned and non-confrontational, although I did raise my voice at her nearer the end when she said she felt sorry for my children. That made me angry.
I feel I should stick up for my son; to me it was important to show him that his place in that queue was important and that their behaviour and lack of apology was unacceptable. I would have preferred him not to have seen the row afterwards but I feel I handled it reasonably well, without swearing or making threats (although I really just wanted to give her a slap). It was just a shame the day finished like that(although to be honest I don't think he actually noticed what was going on as his autism makes him rather insular).
Anyway, just wanted to get it down on paper (screen!). Thank you :)
BonesMS:
You stood up for your son! BRAVA!!!!! Idiots who shove their way into queues are just plain STUPID and RUDE!!!!
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: BonesMS on August 11, 2013, 11:54:21 AM ---You stood up for your son! BRAVA!!!!! Idiots who shove their way into queues are just plain STUPID and RUDE!!!!
--- End quote ---
Ha, thanks Bonesie, I've been getting angrier as I've thought about it - a grown man bullied my son, refused to apologise when pulled up on it and then walked away while his wife gave me a tongue lashing because she thought I shouldn't have said anything! As you say, stupid and rude!
Meh:
Wow Two,
That was brave of you, sometimes we just have to put our foot down and stand our ground I guess.
People who act like that probably rarely have people stand up to them and get away with it often. You were right, there are basic social rules of politeness which they transgressed. So they had to deal with their own embarrassment of being called out on it...and they didn't like that. So they said some crap about you...because they want to continue living their lives not abiding by social rules because it suits their own needs best.... But hey somebody had to say something to them. 8)
I'm sure that you came across more confident and calm than you think. Good job.
It's sort of irritating because I think people like that also "judge" who they can metaphorically cut in front of and who they can not. That is what pisses me off the most is that people take one look at me, think I am mild mannered and too polite to say anything... LOL Got into a stressful fight with a man who cut in front of me at the foodbank when I used to go there. The wait is like 2 hours to get in...so when this drunk fool cut in front of me, I wasn't having it, he ended up getting so frustrated that he just went home. LOL which is fine with me because I recognized him as somebody who just parties every night and drinks can't be bothered to spend some money on food. Oh and also can't be bothered to stand in line for food... :x And he said I was being mean... :shock: I think I was also shaking after that experience, because gosh, a man could beat the crap out of me if he decided to.
It's the same kind of thing, people don't want to wait, think they are somehow special, often get away with the same ol' BS....and then they make it your fault...Because in their mind you should not have been standing in line anyways...LOL The world is full of them.
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Twoapenny on August 11, 2013, 02:12:55 PM ---
--- Quote from: BonesMS on August 11, 2013, 11:54:21 AM ---You stood up for your son! BRAVA!!!!! Idiots who shove their way into queues are just plain STUPID and RUDE!!!!
--- End quote ---
Ha, thanks Bonesie, I've been getting angrier as I've thought about it - a grown man bullied my son, refused to apologise when pulled up on it and then walked away while his wife gave me a tongue lashing because she thought I shouldn't have said anything! As you say, stupid and rude!
--- End quote ---
((((((((((((((((((((((((Tupp))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
Navigation
[0] Message Index
[#] Next page
Go to full version