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Had a row
Hopalong:
Ain't no tiger like a MAMA tiger, Tupp...
I know what you mean though -- you roared, but felt sort of shaken by it.
I feel that way as well. I always feel poisoned by anger, even when it's JUSTIFIED.
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Nobody does anything perfectly, including assertiveness..
xxoo
Hops
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: Hopalong on August 11, 2013, 11:20:36 PM ---Ain't no tiger like a MAMA tiger, Tupp...
I know what you mean though -- you roared, but felt sort of shaken by it.
I feel that way as well. I always feel poisoned by anger, even when it's JUSTIFIED.
(((((((((((Tupp))))))))))))
Nobody does anything perfectly, including assertiveness..
xxoo
Hi Hopsie, you know, I think it's that thing we've talked about on here before, where other people don't play by the rules? How do you challenge/remonstrate/correct when others don't play by the same rules or code/ethics/manners etc? Grrr. It does leave you feeling shaken afterwards, it brought a lot of old memories back. I haven't been spoken to or accused of things like that since the last time I spoke to my mum - and even she's very big on manners so she wouldn't have pushed a child to the front of the queue like that ;)
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Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: Green Bean on August 11, 2013, 03:41:40 PM ---Wow Two,
That was brave of you, sometimes we just have to put our foot down and stand our ground I guess.
People who act like that probably rarely have people stand up to them and get away with it often. You were right, there are basic social rules of politeness which they transgressed. So they had to deal with their own embarrassment of being called out on it...and they didn't like that. So they said some crap about you...because they want to continue living their lives not abiding by social rules because it suits their own needs best.... But hey somebody had to say something to them. 8)
I'm sure that you came across more confident and calm than you think. Good job.
It's sort of irritating because I think people like that also "judge" who they can metaphorically cut in front of and who they can not. That is what pisses me off the most is that people take one look at me, think I am mild mannered and too polite to say anything... LOL Got into a stressful fight with a man who cut in front of me at the foodbank when I used to go there. The wait is like 2 hours to get in...so when this drunk fool cut in front of me, I wasn't having it, he ended up getting so frustrated that he just went home. LOL which is fine with me because I recognized him as somebody who just parties every night and drinks can't be bothered to spend some money on food. Oh and also can't be bothered to stand in line for food... :x And he said I was being mean... :shock: I think I was also shaking after that experience, because gosh, a man could beat the crap out of me if he decided to.
It's the same kind of thing, people don't want to wait, think they are somehow special, often get away with the same ol' BS....and then they make it your fault...Because in their mind you should not have been standing in line anyways...LOL The world is full of them.
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Ah Green I think it makes me more angry when people queue jump at something that people need? People push and jostle in bars and clubs, getting on and off the tube, at concerts and so on but in a line for a food bank?! That's disgusting - I expect the drink played a part with that man? Good on you for standing your ground - I think you're right when you say they pick people they think they'll get away with doing it to - I'm kind of short and small and my son's obviously got health problems and yep, no-one else said anything (despite the fact about six other people saw what happened) so I expect they probably do get away with it a lot. One day they'll annoy some big scary dad :)
Twoapenny:
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--- Quote from: BonesMS on August 11, 2013, 11:54:21 AM ---You stood up for your son! BRAVA!!!!! Idiots who shove their way into queues are just plain STUPID and RUDE!!!!
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Ha, thanks Bonesie, I've been getting angrier as I've thought about it - a grown man bullied my son, refused to apologise when pulled up on it and then walked away while his wife gave me a tongue lashing because she thought I shouldn't have said anything! As you say, stupid and rude!
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Thanks, Bonesie! A lesson learnt - next time I'll speak up and/or intervene sooner. I saw what was going on before anything actually happened (in the queue) but I didn't want to assume the worst so waited to see what the man was going to do about the child (I assumed he'd call him back). Should have jumped in myself and stopped the little lad getting on. Next time!
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BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Twoapenny on August 12, 2013, 01:26:46 AM ---
--- Quote from: BonesMS on August 11, 2013, 08:19:27 PM ---
--- Quote from: Twoapenny on August 11, 2013, 02:12:55 PM ---
--- Quote from: BonesMS on August 11, 2013, 11:54:21 AM ---You stood up for your son! BRAVA!!!!! Idiots who shove their way into queues are just plain STUPID and RUDE!!!!
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Ha, thanks Bonesie, I've been getting angrier as I've thought about it - a grown man bullied my son, refused to apologise when pulled up on it and then walked away while his wife gave me a tongue lashing because she thought I shouldn't have said anything! As you say, stupid and rude!
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Thanks, Bonesie! A lesson learnt - next time I'll speak up and/or intervene sooner. I saw what was going on before anything actually happened (in the queue) but I didn't want to assume the worst so waited to see what the man was going to do about the child (I assumed he'd call him back). Should have jumped in myself and stopped the little lad getting on. Next time!
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