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I cannot believe my family@!!@@@!!!!!!!!!!!!
lighter:
Whew, so glad you're sleeping well, and feeling better, Izz.
About the sister/brother/he said/she said thing......
Is all the information you received second hand hearsay? If so, take a step back, and consider the source.
Some people like to make trouble, and some people say what they're thinking while attributing it to someone else.
::shrug::
It's something we really should have learned a while ago.
Your brother may truly feel he couldn't easily have settled the estate cross country and not said the things you think he did.
In any case, you can ignore, ask for clarification, or take it all with a grain of salt and forget it.
I just hope you can cultivate some serenity around the issue.
It's your money. You're certainly within your rights to do with it as you see fit, and you can share your decisions, or not.
Lighter
Izzy_*now*:
hi lighter
The he said she said was in my first post
I cannot believe my family! I had named my brother, now 70 and 2000 miles away, as secondary POA and Trustee of my Estate.
After a number of years and now my settlement, it was time to review my Will. Because he is the youngest sibling, (eldest being 79) and the wisest, I had chosen him, but now we are 2000 miles apart and he is 70, with 4 heart attacks under his belt. I removed him as secondary and notified him. My new lawyer agreed with my decision and also notified him. My brother responded to me with, that is was all right, as settling an Estate across country would be difficult!
Apparently he took this as a reason to talk to others about “cutting” him out of my Will, then I hear in a round about way, that he said this to a sister who responded with the fact that my money ought to go to blood relatives.
So we are 74 and 70. In 10 years 84 and 80, in 15 years 88 and 84....where do I draw the line at the age thing??? Did it now!!! (and he told me a tale about being considerate of our Mother's last living first cousin and how my Bro had arranged things because of "the age and distance traveled by the participants" to an afternoon Ontario Reunion----Jeesh! I am talking FOUR provinces away 2000 miles not 150 miles! and he's okay and I am "cutting" him.
That remark from my sister was to her ex-daughter-in-law with whom I am still friends.....the reason being that I like her, and am always for the underdog. She went to AA and has a few of sober years under her belt.
Yes, it is second hand but I know to whom I only told what! The rest is being passed around, and my new user name came in on an email to me from......................D! She must have see it on a FWD.
SO out of the blue, I receive a short email from D, about a website that interests her and perhaps it would interest me! (Now this is strange because once away some time go I sent HER as website that interested me and perhaps it would interest her, and she said...just because....we didn't have to have the same interests!)
(Her last email was Sept 18, 2011.) I just jotted, "Thank you. This is the one I'm studying now" and gave it to her!
Jeesh they drive me nuts!!!!!
xx
Izzy
Went for my CPR (cardiac something) blood workup re the inflammation of joints, today. I wheeled 4 long blocks, then 2 more, then had a taxi bring me home--- Next week I see Dr., unless this blood test tells him what he needs to know, but I will be out of meds by then. Now I m getting too much sleep! I'll settle one day! and I have the patience of Job.....as in, what else does one do but to hang in there?
Hopalong:
Hey, Izz!
That CRP is C-Reactive Protein, an important marker of overall inflammation.
The new supplement I'm taking, called ZYFLAMEND, brings it down. I like this stuff.
It reduces joint pain and stiffness too.
I am so blown away by your journey to less pain.
More more more!
(Of the less, less, less.)
love to you--
Hops
ps--my D's bday is in a few days. First of the hardest days in the hellidays season,
but it will pass. xxoo
Izzy_*now*:
HI all
Hops! I didn't know (or likely forgot) that you were in pain. Does ZYFLAMEND work? I googled it--- an OCD, eh? Expensive? I could be really fat if I take Prednisone for a year ($8.33/mo.)---just had to go back on after 2 weeks of pain free, as I could feel it returning. My CPR was good and my hemoglobin 116 up from 80, that started all this and as yet unknown why the huge drop in that and blood pressure. (/ HOPS>
I have been exchanging emails with my brother, now that he was brought into the fray by my revoking his secondary Trusteeship. He is surely the most open and free-speaking and on the mark of the 3 sisters. There is very little with which I can argue about what he says, as they are his thoughts, and his experiences, then the rest is the everyday wisdom we all ought to know. He can read me far better than the sister, but said sister has been sharing my emails---
--as I have now picked out two items from his that I told only her. One was that I said I hoped he wasn't trying to sabotage my quitting smoking ( 3 years now, Nov 17, 2010) as, for me anyway, talking about it brings it to the forefront. His email said, in his "crits' of me, that he was sorry that I felt he was sabotaging me, as he was asking only for my health's sake. His wife smokes and just cannot quit. She used to be able to go outside, but now that the odour is on her and in her hair etc. she must shower and change completely before seeing her (now 2) grand-girls (whose mother used to smoke.)
Well, it's my family individually to whom I mention different things, and I expect they are no repeating, but it appears to not be the case. At the last I was hanging in there as my brother was my fav--- Our main topic was "cause and effect" , the cause being in my very younger years, and the effect as being who/what I am now! Childhood trauma in adulthood, google it and see, is now making a mark in psychology.
Comp acting up. Will post
xx
Izzy
Meh:
Hi Izzy, just saying hi is all. :)
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