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Twoapenny:
As many of you know, my son has special needs. Because of this, there are times when we are able to apply to charities for certain things that are related to his disability.
I recently contacted one charity to find out if a previous award was still ongoing, as they'd originally agreed to fund a course of treatment on an ongoing basis for quite some time. It has transpired that they were contacted a while ago and told the award was no longer needed, so it was cancelled. Obviously it wasn't me that contacted them, so in my mind there is only one other person it is likely to be.
Apart from the inconvenience and the obvious "when will it end" type questions I cannot for the life of me work out how she found out we were using them, or how she's yet again managed to convince someone she's me, particularly at this stage when we've not had contact for so long.
I don't know how to stop this or what to do. I've been to the police, and social services and they've done nothing. I've spoken to solicitors and it isn't something I can get legal aid for and I'm not in a position to pay for it (it's tens of thousands of pounds). I am still making complaints and clearing up paperwork from as far back as 2004. The deeper I dig, the more I find.
It isn't a major thing now, more of a minor irritation. But it's an ongoing irritation and I'm still having to deal with her, even though I don't see or speak to her.
I don't know which way to turn.
fraidycat:
So sorry to hear this, it is so heartless and cruel! I wish they would have confirmed it with you when they took your son off the list. I hope it gets straightened out.
Hopalong:
As awful as she's been, I can't grasp why on earth a grandmother would try to sabotage health care her grandchild needs?
I can't fathom this.
Do you know for a fact that she impersonated you, or do you think she called them pretending to be the responsible party and told them he wouldn't attend his appointments or something?
I just don't get it. I'm not grasping how it could happen.
But it's good to hear that this isn't going to set him back...sheesh.
I'm so sorry, Tupp...
Damn.
Hops
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: Hopalong on December 24, 2013, 02:34:12 PM ---As awful as she's been, I can't grasp why on earth a grandmother would try to sabotage health care her grandchild needs?
I can't fathom this.
Do you know for a fact that she impersonated you, or do you think she called them pretending to be the responsible party and told them he wouldn't attend his appointments or something?
I just don't get it. I'm not grasping how it could happen.
But it's good to hear that this isn't going to set him back...sheesh.
I'm so sorry, Tupp...
Damn.
Hops
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She's been sabotaging his health care needs for ten years Hopsie, it's what she does. I don't know why. I can only guess that the only way she can get to me is through him. She knows I don't give a crap about anyone or anything else. None of what she's done makes any sense to me. I guess the worse he is the harder it is for me to cope and the more likely it would be that I'd give him up? I don't know.
I don't know what exactly has happened, I've asked for a copy of the file. Unfortunately I have found that some of these organisations make things difficult because they don't want the trouble that goes with it - if they've taken information that serious from someone who isn't me and acted upon it it's a pretty big deal and some have made it hard for me to get paperwork and access to files in the past. So whether she's pretended to be me or pretended to be the medic I don't know. I am hoping (the more I think about it) that there's just been some sort of bizarre cock up. I can't for the life of me work out how she's found out we were getting help from them?
Anyway - nothing sets him back! Just makes me more determined - I've done a good job with him and will continue to do so. We'll see what comes of it all. They're closed over Christmas which is a blessing really as there's nothing more to be done now. I'm still hoping I find out I was adopted and she's not really my mum!
Twoapenny:
--- Quote from: fraidycat on December 24, 2013, 02:07:32 PM ---So sorry to hear this, it is so heartless and cruel! I wish they would have confirmed it with you when they took your son off the list. I hope it gets straightened out.
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Thanks, Fraidy! It will all get straightened out, it's not really a big deal in and of itself, if you know what I mean, it's just that frustration of 'ah! Leave us alone!'. Perhaps it will turn out to be some big misunderstanding. Unfortunately we've had things in the past where I've only found out because I've contacted an organisation about something else and they've said something along the lines of "well you did all this a year ago". And of course it wasn't me, it was her. It does just reinforce that I did the right thing by not contacting her.
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