When I was trying to survive my evil brother's iNsanity, fortunately his accusations were so demonstrably
conspiracy-theory NUTS, that once his rambling "list" of my transgressions (harboring creepy people in
the Family Home, when it was the interim MINISTER and his wife renting the space, and my brother's
homegrown "P.I" (whom I suspect was an unemployed h.s. buddy) sent him license plates...my brother
puffed up and made all these dark innuendoes about people with "false identities" living in the house...
anyway, turned out he had the license number of a very reputable radiologist who lived across the street,
and there WERE no "secrets" about the minister. Duh. My brother wound up looking stupid, irrational, and
(according to my lawyer) delusional.
I responded to and debunked every accusation he made in detail, in writing, and when it came to finances,
I had meticulous records of every single thing I had done in Mom's behalf (and with her blessing). My
very favorite moment, which I'm sure I've mentioned here before--was when the temporary conservator
wrote her report to the judge, and said, "No only is there no evidence going back years, of any misuse
or inappropriate handing of funds whatsoever, but [Hops] has actually gone into personal debt herself
to manage her mother's nursing home costs, and must be repaid when the estate is settled." She did
point out that due to me being not a brilliant accountant I didn't manage it perfectly, and that over
10 years I had paid about $750 in unnecessary fees (late, miscalculated, etc.). But on the other hand,
I'd spent over $20,000 of my own money to pay for Mom's nursing care, leaving myself considerably in
debt."
The evidence of my brother's contribution to his mother's care was--$40. For one hairdo at the nursing
home. And...it turned out that my brother's wife had donated that.
I hope that is my last court experience for the rest of my life (it was my first) -- but the official
affirmation that I was a conscientious and devoted caregiver, and that he was a creep...was sweet.
I hope this is how it winds up for you too, Lighter -- and that you can soon leave it all behind.
Is there any visitation with the grandparents at all? Do you or the girls want there to be?
xo
Hops
